Jealousy (sorry need some advice)

[kiatworcs]

How to cope???

My boyfriend has moved away due to work and finances he has gone back to were he comes from has been gone 3months well since 5thdec and i have seen him twice for weekends, he is still very good friends with his ex gf which is who i seem to have a problem with. its crazy he has an ex wife yet i have no issues with her.

hes gonna be gone for about another 2months but i wont see him now till he moves back, we talk all the time and i know that this is either gonna make us or break us. to be honest it has made us alot stronger but these are my insecureties not bcuz i actually think he is doing anything becuz i know he wouldnt. to be fair i am like this with the previous 2 bf's but i love my present bf and dont see myself not being with him.

sorry to go on needed to get it kinda off my chest family dont really want to know so.

:hug::smack:

 

[lenna]

hey, well its definitely a hard situation to be in and i guess any girl would be feeling slightly insecure if she was in your situation, but just keep thinking its only two months and it is you he chose, in two months its back to just being all you again, try to just remain calm and support him so he still sees you as the girl he fell in love with.

 

[kiatworcs]

Hi thanku i am trying to but every so often i end being like this and have to get rid of all the weight.
i just hope everything will be back to normal when he does come back home xx

 

[lenna]

ah dont worry it will be, i know there is probably noone that would feel great being in ur situation, but the worse thing i think you could do is make him feel that your needy or doubting him, just be as much yourself as possible, hes probably missing u like mad, so when you talk you can let him know that you love and miss him, but dont ask bout the ex girlfriend or anything that would make you sound jealous

 

[Voodoo]

ah dont worry it will be, i know there is probably noone that would feel great being in ur situation, but the worse thing i think you could do is make him feel that your needy or doubting him, just be as much yourself as possible, hes probably missing u like mad, so when you talk you can let him know that you love and miss him, but dont ask bout the ex girlfriend or anything that would make you sound jealous

good advice.

anyone who loves someone is going to get these sort of feelings at one time or another, it's simply us being human.

i wouldn't be at all surprised if HE is worrying about what you are getting up to, and whether any ex's are sniffing around now that he is out of the area...it works both ways honey.

hugs :hug:

jue xx

 

[Tams]

I can sympathise totally my fella is in Leeds and I am in the Midlands and i have driven myself INSANE with unfounded jealousy and convinced myself he has cheated and driven the poor bloke mad but when I calm down and be rational I see that he chose me just as much as I chose him and all the nuttiness pushes him away..

Jue is right its human nature so dont beat yourself up for feeling this way but what doesnt break you will make you stronger and the way I look at it they are EX's for a reason..

Be calm and happy - and if all else fails get your party pants on and hit the town with the girls! xx

 

[gemsie1983]

I can sympathise too because my OH works away. The key is to make the most of the time you do have together, and when he is away occupy yourself with hobbies, college courses etc. It also gives you something to talk about when he is around!

 

[pretty-in-pink]

hey hun my boyfriend works away quite alot i only see him a few times a week if that at times! so i know in certain ways where your coming from its so hard being away from each other im as crazy over my boyfriend as i were when we 1st met and miss him so much,but then again we deal with it because we love them if you ever need a chat hun im always here

x

 

[kiatworcs]

hi, everyone thank u so much for all ur comments they all mean alot
thanku xx

 

[nailzoo]

I have an old saying ........

IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING ...... SET IT FREE

IF IT COMES BACK IT'S YOUR FOREVER .....

IF IT DOESN'T COME BACK

HUNT IT DOWN AND KILL IT !!!!!!!



I'm sure it will all will work out .... relax