MissLou
Well-Known Member
Hi Geeks,
I don't want to bore you all with more man advice but I've tried to post on other forums but tbh they all seem like nutcases and I know the geeks on here are totally level headed and honest! So I hope no one minds
I would like to know if anyone on here has ever dated, been in a relationship with someone who has cheated on them or they have caught that person flirting strongly or kissing someone else and then taken them back or vice versa?
I'll give you a very brief (try to be brief) run down of why i ask this and also if you all share it's only fair i do too.
I dated a guy last year and it was a lot of chasing involved and hot and cold behaviour from him, eventually we got it together and I had never been so happy generally. He has this infectious attitude were nothing is impossible, hes always positive, always put me in an estatic mood and above all we clicked. I loved being around him and when ever we werent together or i didnt know when i'd see him next i'd feel a lil sad as I'd want to see him that much. (i never let on to this mind)
Few weeks in crap hit the fan and i caught him flirting heavily with another girl, i didnt see them kiss or anything but it looked very cosy and i just thought no way, im one of those ppl that cheating is the lowest of the low and if anyone done that to me i'm off like a shot-so thats wat i did. Then he made a huge gesture, came round to me, completly took responsibilty, apologised, told me his feelings for me and how he then realsied how good we were, sooo i took him bk. But it led to me having those trust issues constantly there, like i thought may happen, a so-called friend (whos not a nice person) informed me after we broke up she caught him kissing another girl??dont know who to belive there... So i did the sensible thing, put us both out of misery and ended it....but I have never felt so upset and it felt wrong to end it, crazy as im thinking if you dont have trust you dont have anything right? so i didnt want to be in argumentive relationship and waste mine or his time so my head is tellling me this is the right thing to do but it felt so wrong inside...I thought it will pass, give it time, it didnt, we've seen eachother since as we have some of the same friends, we have actually said quite a lot to one another about our feelings we still have for eachother etc etc but then things went really belly up, i started seeing someone else, then he declared how he wanted to try again and had strong feelings for me (he didnt know i was seeing someone else) things got sticky and he thought i was playing games by not telling him i was seeing someone else, then i had a change of heart and decided to tell him that i infact miss him alot, still carry a lot of feeling for him but then found out he was seeing someone else!So i kept quiet.
I felt physically sick when i was told this news. Which again shocked me to my core as i didnt think he got that far under my skin! So me being stuborn I decided thats it, im not doing this anymore i went full on with the guy i was seeing but for all the wrong reasons. I admit i had behaved stupidly, i did a lot of things wrong and i see the error of my ways, he wasnt much better but i was worse. So ended it with the guy i was seeing, decided no more men! but he is STILL costantly in my mind. I try so hard to forget him, i took on new hobbies, went out with different friends, all to get over him and move on but he's still always there.
this whole time we've been in contact every few weeks or months, i dont know how but we end up being in contact and we either tear strips off eachother or we say how much we miss eachother. So, i've been brave and above all i wanted to appologise to him for my bit of bad behaviour, i wanted to mend things with him above anything else, so we spoke on the phone the other night, i appologised for everything, he said sorry for his bad actions and now I'm thinking, life is so short, if i have these strong feelings for him should i bite the bullet, tell him and we give it another go??
Just to add to this mess, hes had family problems that i've not been there to help with which makes me feel awfully guilty but again as i dont want to mess up where we are now is it best left? i know he misses me and im confident if i tell him i want to give it a go theres a good chance he will too, but i dont want to destroy any freindship or make anything worse as we've been through a hard time. Has anyone else had this kind of problem of trust issues or messing up themselves and making amends?
These feelings have been harbouring for a year now and it's time to do something, do i forget and keep trying to move on or do i try again?
I don't want to bore you all with more man advice but I've tried to post on other forums but tbh they all seem like nutcases and I know the geeks on here are totally level headed and honest! So I hope no one minds
I would like to know if anyone on here has ever dated, been in a relationship with someone who has cheated on them or they have caught that person flirting strongly or kissing someone else and then taken them back or vice versa?
I'll give you a very brief (try to be brief) run down of why i ask this and also if you all share it's only fair i do too.
I dated a guy last year and it was a lot of chasing involved and hot and cold behaviour from him, eventually we got it together and I had never been so happy generally. He has this infectious attitude were nothing is impossible, hes always positive, always put me in an estatic mood and above all we clicked. I loved being around him and when ever we werent together or i didnt know when i'd see him next i'd feel a lil sad as I'd want to see him that much. (i never let on to this mind)
Few weeks in crap hit the fan and i caught him flirting heavily with another girl, i didnt see them kiss or anything but it looked very cosy and i just thought no way, im one of those ppl that cheating is the lowest of the low and if anyone done that to me i'm off like a shot-so thats wat i did. Then he made a huge gesture, came round to me, completly took responsibilty, apologised, told me his feelings for me and how he then realsied how good we were, sooo i took him bk. But it led to me having those trust issues constantly there, like i thought may happen, a so-called friend (whos not a nice person) informed me after we broke up she caught him kissing another girl??dont know who to belive there... So i did the sensible thing, put us both out of misery and ended it....but I have never felt so upset and it felt wrong to end it, crazy as im thinking if you dont have trust you dont have anything right? so i didnt want to be in argumentive relationship and waste mine or his time so my head is tellling me this is the right thing to do but it felt so wrong inside...I thought it will pass, give it time, it didnt, we've seen eachother since as we have some of the same friends, we have actually said quite a lot to one another about our feelings we still have for eachother etc etc but then things went really belly up, i started seeing someone else, then he declared how he wanted to try again and had strong feelings for me (he didnt know i was seeing someone else) things got sticky and he thought i was playing games by not telling him i was seeing someone else, then i had a change of heart and decided to tell him that i infact miss him alot, still carry a lot of feeling for him but then found out he was seeing someone else!So i kept quiet.
I felt physically sick when i was told this news. Which again shocked me to my core as i didnt think he got that far under my skin! So me being stuborn I decided thats it, im not doing this anymore i went full on with the guy i was seeing but for all the wrong reasons. I admit i had behaved stupidly, i did a lot of things wrong and i see the error of my ways, he wasnt much better but i was worse. So ended it with the guy i was seeing, decided no more men! but he is STILL costantly in my mind. I try so hard to forget him, i took on new hobbies, went out with different friends, all to get over him and move on but he's still always there.
this whole time we've been in contact every few weeks or months, i dont know how but we end up being in contact and we either tear strips off eachother or we say how much we miss eachother. So, i've been brave and above all i wanted to appologise to him for my bit of bad behaviour, i wanted to mend things with him above anything else, so we spoke on the phone the other night, i appologised for everything, he said sorry for his bad actions and now I'm thinking, life is so short, if i have these strong feelings for him should i bite the bullet, tell him and we give it another go??
Just to add to this mess, hes had family problems that i've not been there to help with which makes me feel awfully guilty but again as i dont want to mess up where we are now is it best left? i know he misses me and im confident if i tell him i want to give it a go theres a good chance he will too, but i dont want to destroy any freindship or make anything worse as we've been through a hard time. Has anyone else had this kind of problem of trust issues or messing up themselves and making amends?
These feelings have been harbouring for a year now and it's time to do something, do i forget and keep trying to move on or do i try again?