Hope you feel better in the morning xx
Thanks but after and early night and a lie in I still feel awful
dose myself up again and hope things are better tomorrow after a another day resting.
He is 4 going on 14. Screamed that he hates us yesterday. Am hoping we're getting this now and he'll be an angel teenager!! :wink2: Lol xx
It is a normal stage of development he is going through but you can help yourself and him by using some useful tequniques.
I have a 14 year old boy, 8 year old girl, 4 year old girl and 3 year old boy.
I refuse point blank to engage conversation with them during a tantrum and will only speak to them once they have calmed down as they get emotionally flooded and nothing will get through.
Picture this situation:
Your in a swimming pool and when calm you have your head above the water - so you can see, hear, breath and think normally.
Then when in a tantrum/upset your head sinks under - so you can't breath propperly, everything you hear is blurred and you cant see through the water so you can't think about anything else.
This is how a child (or adult actually) feels when they are in a tantrum or are upset - nothing gets through until they have calmed down and can see, hear, breath and think normally again - All I do with my kids is hug/sooth them to show I'm there and ready to talk when they are calm.
Believe it or not this really does work because they learn that they need to be calm to get thier point or need accross and my children don't paddy or stay upset for very long these days.
Don't get me wrong this is not an instant fix but I promise it works if you stay as calm as you can and reasure him that you're there, do the same thing each time he gets emotionally flooded and he will learn to become calm quicker and quicker.
