Worried about my son of 16; he seems to suffer from anxiety
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Wonda
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I'm sorry your son isn't feeling himself at the moment, but i just wanted to throw another possibility into the mix, if you don't mind.
For many years as a child i used to have moments where i was very vague, i could hold a basic conversation, but would feel a little sick, slight headache afterwards & not really remember what the conversation was about.
These would usually last 30 seconds or so, but afterwards all i'd want to do is sleep & be on my own.
After going to the Dr's, sent to see specialists, being tested, being told it was growing pains & i'll grow out of them, 7 years later when i finally shouted loud enough at all the specialists, they told me i was Epileptic & was i was experiencing was a form of Petit Mal Seizures.
If you look up these forms of seizures, they come in MANY different forms. Most people think Epilepsy is fall to the floor & start shaking your limbs, it's not. Those are Grand Mals & are very easy to diagnose because you can actually see something happening rather than just weird feelings that you cant explain.
There are so many different seizures that Dr's sometimes misdiagnose or not even diagnose in the first place.
I used to get a feeling of de-ja-vu just before one of my absence seizures/Petit mals but when i was on medication i still got the de-ja-vu but not the absence .... i told the specialists & they informed me that this was still part of a seizure just the feeling that your going to get 1.
The mind is such an unknown thing, it's always best to get it checked out.
All i can say, is to keep on at your GP's, if you don't get the answer which explains everything, go elsewhere.
For many years as a child i used to have moments where i was very vague, i could hold a basic conversation, but would feel a little sick, slight headache afterwards & not really remember what the conversation was about.
These would usually last 30 seconds or so, but afterwards all i'd want to do is sleep & be on my own.
After going to the Dr's, sent to see specialists, being tested, being told it was growing pains & i'll grow out of them, 7 years later when i finally shouted loud enough at all the specialists, they told me i was Epileptic & was i was experiencing was a form of Petit Mal Seizures.
If you look up these forms of seizures, they come in MANY different forms. Most people think Epilepsy is fall to the floor & start shaking your limbs, it's not. Those are Grand Mals & are very easy to diagnose because you can actually see something happening rather than just weird feelings that you cant explain.
There are so many different seizures that Dr's sometimes misdiagnose or not even diagnose in the first place.
I used to get a feeling of de-ja-vu just before one of my absence seizures/Petit mals but when i was on medication i still got the de-ja-vu but not the absence .... i told the specialists & they informed me that this was still part of a seizure just the feeling that your going to get 1.
The mind is such an unknown thing, it's always best to get it checked out.
All i can say, is to keep on at your GP's, if you don't get the answer which explains everything, go elsewhere.
giordanonails
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I suffer from extreme anxiety and panic disorder-in fact I'm in the middle of a bad spell right now.
Not meaning to pry-but did your son have anything traumatic happen to him when he was younger? Mines stems from being hit by a car when I was younger. Doc says that because the part of the brain that scans for danger didnt work that day-it now works overtime., all the time. It has taken me until 6 years ago to find out that I was suffering anxiety and panic. They say trauma is timeless.
I'm at the moment waiting to start cognitive behavioural therapy to try to intercept my negative thoughts before they get out of control.
Totally understand the feeling of being in a dream, and its horrible sometimes I feel like I've dropped down someone else's chimney even when I'm in my own home. It is indeed the body's way of switching off to protect-but the worst thing to do is to try ignore the feelings of anxiety. Accept that they are there.
A few things that may help:
Mood juice website
The Sedona Method (video on YouTube)
Breathing from the diaphragm
'Mindfullness' :http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/docs/Info-What is Mindfulness.pdf
I read a lot of the worksheets on the CCI website-try it!!
http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax_doc.cfm?Mini_ID=46
You are definitely nOT alone in this-its a demon that plagues so many people-but with the right help you can control it. Big hugs xxx
Not meaning to pry-but did your son have anything traumatic happen to him when he was younger? Mines stems from being hit by a car when I was younger. Doc says that because the part of the brain that scans for danger didnt work that day-it now works overtime., all the time. It has taken me until 6 years ago to find out that I was suffering anxiety and panic. They say trauma is timeless.
I'm at the moment waiting to start cognitive behavioural therapy to try to intercept my negative thoughts before they get out of control.
Totally understand the feeling of being in a dream, and its horrible sometimes I feel like I've dropped down someone else's chimney even when I'm in my own home. It is indeed the body's way of switching off to protect-but the worst thing to do is to try ignore the feelings of anxiety. Accept that they are there.
A few things that may help:
Mood juice website
The Sedona Method (video on YouTube)
Breathing from the diaphragm
'Mindfullness' :http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/docs/Info-What is Mindfulness.pdf
I read a lot of the worksheets on the CCI website-try it!!
http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax_doc.cfm?Mini_ID=46
You are definitely nOT alone in this-its a demon that plagues so many people-but with the right help you can control it. Big hugs xxx
Sarah89Nails
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I have suffered from a similar feeling as I have a mental health disorder and suffer from anxiety. I experienced disassociated feelings, there is a few types. At its most severe I was hospitalised but that was mostly down to other mental health problems alongside it. The more I stressed about the sensation the worse I got because I became anxious. In my experience accepting I felt that way and knowing I was safe and things were real helped it slowly go away. Has he tried any grounding techniques? If you search online there is quite a few and they do help. Hope it improves and he gets the support he may need xxxxx
OakleyAcademy
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Hi sorry to butt in but we have some information one close friends, has suffered with depersonalisation or derealisation for over a year now, the explanation you gave your son about the brain slowing down to cope is a really good one, our friend was going through a stressful time when this first happened, she uses relaxation techniques to help her,
I suffered terribly with derealization when I was going through puberty, it would come on at any time, no matter what I was doing and each episode would last anywhere between 30 seconds and an hour, but I'd feel anxious for long periods of time expecting it to happen! I would feel as if I wasn't really here, as if everything around me was happening in slow motion and was completely out of my control. Eventually I learnt to just accept it was happening, stay calm and wait for it to pass. All of a sudden they stopped happening and it's never happened since.
I don't mean to play down your concerns but just wanted to let you know it might be nothing to worry about
I don't mean to play down your concerns but just wanted to let you know it might be nothing to worry about
OakleyAcademy
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Such as yoga or breathing techniques although I'm not sure how keen on that a 16 year old will be, although its good that he's going to the gym this in itself is relaxing and releases endorphins,so hopefully that will help, we're aware that its a very frustrating condition,
Best of luck with everything x
Best of luck with everything x
angelina221
Master Lash Tech
Hmm I'd be worried about the diazepam too. Doctors are so keen to just dole out pills these days.
My sister started suffering panic attacks after my mom died. She is on medication and is fine now but she carries diazepam with her just in case she has, what she calls, 'a wobble'. If she feels one coming on then she will take one but these are an absolute last resort.
It's a strong medication and I think you are absolutely right to not want the drugs yet.
Goes to show what an amazing thing our brain is and also how it can effect us physically and how we can also hopefully re programme it.
Its just another part of the body that can go wrong and we think nothing of going to the doctors with other health problems,but when our brains become a bit unwell we struggle with it,especially when it comes to having therapy.
There are obviously too few therapists on the NHS as the waiting
Lists are so long everywhere and I imagine you don't probably get as many treatments as you need or as often.
Its so good to see everyone talking about it here.Its important to know how common it is and the different aspects of it and what helps.
I know a lot of celebs go on about bi polar etc but half the time they have been on drugs so I kind of think well of course you have mental problems and I find it hard to want to listen to anything they have to say about it.
Its just another part of the body that can go wrong and we think nothing of going to the doctors with other health problems,but when our brains become a bit unwell we struggle with it,especially when it comes to having therapy.
There are obviously too few therapists on the NHS as the waiting
Lists are so long everywhere and I imagine you don't probably get as many treatments as you need or as often.
Its so good to see everyone talking about it here.Its important to know how common it is and the different aspects of it and what helps.
I know a lot of celebs go on about bi polar etc but half the time they have been on drugs so I kind of think well of course you have mental problems and I find it hard to want to listen to anything they have to say about it.
Nail Perfection
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He definitely seems better tonight. I asked him if he thinks he is over the worst of it and he said he doesn't know and doesn't want to talk about it. I think he realises that dwelling on it makes it worse. I havent even mentioned it, it was him asking me if I had told the school, I reassured him that I hadn't and he seems happy for now. I have also gave him a shoulder massage to relax him!
I agree it is great people are discussing the taboo subject of mental health.
I absolutely love salon geek for support x
I agree it is great people are discussing the taboo subject of mental health.
I absolutely love salon geek for support x
One thing I forgot to say was have a look at his diet.Once my son got to a teen and I had less control over what he ate his diet was terrible he was also drinking a lot of those caffeine energy drinks.It was something the therapist discussed with him and I also got him some multi vitamins to take.
Rinn
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Is he taking an anti -acne meds like roaccutane?
Nail Perfection
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Well his eye test today was fine. He still.seems over the worst for now ,I.e. he went to school ok and also his running club tonight. I do think the diet plays a big part in mental health so today I bought some multi vitamins with iron as his iron level were low last year.
Also bought some rescue remedy which I will offer him. Have just asked if he wants to keep doc appointment tom and he says no. I feel this is a good sign and that he feels better.
Thanks again everyone x
Also bought some rescue remedy which I will offer him. Have just asked if he wants to keep doc appointment tom and he says no. I feel this is a good sign and that he feels better.
Thanks again everyone x
angelina221
Master Lash Tech
My daughter is a health freak. She eats organic foods, she won't have sweets or chocolates, she has lactose free products, she goes to the gym regularly. A lot of her anxiety is food related though.
I wonder if there is such a thing as being too healthy!
I wonder if there is such a thing as being too healthy!
Nail Perfection
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Hi, no he does not take any meds, thanks for the suggestion though as I know this drug is known to cause depression.
