My best mate has asked me to be one of her bridesmaids and I really want to say no. I will happily go to her wedding as a normal guest, help her with AAAAALLLLL the plans, everything. I just don't want to go through all the annoying bridesmaid stuff. I have 3 kids n a husband, I rather be with them during the ceremony and at the reception, and getting ready in the morning. She's asked 3 other girls also so would it be so terrible to decline? I don't wanna come across as selfish n spoiled or whatever but I just wondered is it ok to say no?