evie168
Well-Known Member
Early on in my relationship with my bf my mother told him he was fat. I have to agree with hazeleyes because I guess it depends on how you take it. He took it as motivation to get back on track being healthy rather than a personal attack. (My mom at the time was bigger than him and he wasn't at all fat). With a child though it's different as they need more support and guidance as they learn from examples.
The way I look at it when someone tells me I'm fat (only my mum and her friends) is to look at it as 'constructive feedback'. We get so used to looking at ourselves everyday that it can be hard to notice changes to your body. If your manager or colleague was to tell you you've done something wrong and here's what you need to do to improve, you wouldn't take it as a personal attack but more that they're offering to help and guide you to become better. It's no good commenting if you don't lead by example and provide suggestions on how to improve. Well this works for me. I know it doesn't work for all because my mom's one of those who will bite your head off if you said that to her. The best method for her is being proactive together and a bit of hand holding. Haha, I love my mom.
The way I look at it when someone tells me I'm fat (only my mum and her friends) is to look at it as 'constructive feedback'. We get so used to looking at ourselves everyday that it can be hard to notice changes to your body. If your manager or colleague was to tell you you've done something wrong and here's what you need to do to improve, you wouldn't take it as a personal attack but more that they're offering to help and guide you to become better. It's no good commenting if you don't lead by example and provide suggestions on how to improve. Well this works for me. I know it doesn't work for all because my mom's one of those who will bite your head off if you said that to her. The best method for her is being proactive together and a bit of hand holding. Haha, I love my mom.