Overweight in the beauty industry

[WaxGirl]

Susie - first of all lol

second - I think you are missing the point - nobody wants to be insulted because of their body size - you identify with the fat insults because you are overweight and have went through all that

but you are not getting that it can be as insulting too someone small to be called skinny - body issues dont go away jsut because you are smaller.

you seem on quite a rant there lol and i would say if it bothers you that much and gets to you like that then why not try losing some weight?

 

[LauraStreet]

I am overweight and am on the long journey to losing weight (23lbs down only about another 23million to go ) I have read this thread with interest as I have identified with the OP, but I've actually used my weight as a reason not to fully push my business - will I be accepted, will people take me seriously etc etc. I think my advice to you would be, if you are able to do your job to the highest standard, then you will succeed. Peoples insecurities lie in all areas not just age or weight and as long as everyone is treated the same, then you'll do great! (now i think i should practice what I preach)

Now for my other off topic answer....

I see a lot of women naked for tanning and honestly I think people feel comfortable with me, as I remain totally professional and chat to them the whole way through. In fact I don't see body sizes on my clients, I just see white bits that need tanned evenly. For some my size may be reassuring, for some it may be the opposite.... both are a judgement made on me personally as opposed to my professional skill, so neither are correct.

My husband on the other hand, he gets the skinny jokes, he's not skinny, but he really looks after himself, but these skinny/lanky remarks, absolutely knock his confidence to zero (he would never admit that obviously).

I would never have believed it myself, having always thought that the fat jibe was always worse than skinny. He's a builder and people make jokes that he can't be a good one as builders should be bigger and they offer to arm wrestle him (honestly)..... so my moral of the story is, some people will always be shallow enough to judge you, or jealous enough to put you down but if you keep doing what you love and strive to do it better than anyone else around you, you will succeed.

Wow what an essay

 

[lea2721]

For starters, if you are a size 18, and five foot tall (which I am) then you do get used to hearing people describe you as the tubby one, the fat one, no, I don't like it but it's the truth and its no more of an insult than being described as the older one or being mistaken for the tutor because I'm old enough to be her mother. And that is a far cry from someone yelling oy fatty!
So are you saying if someone calls you skinny you would be insulted?
Or would you check yourself out in the nearest mirror or shop window and think, Dam I look good today and give yourself a great big smile?
How about all those girls who are moaning that they are fed up with being called the skinny one?
Would they prefer it if their fella grabbed a pinch of skin and said, oh look, you've got love handles! Would that make them feel better?
Or would it have them running for the gym, the diet food? etc.
No, don't go there with me, I am to old and too many times around the block to put up with that kind of rubbish.
Oy skinny, does not have the same ring to it that; 'you fat cow' does
In fact if someone wants to hurt a skinny girl, that's exactly what they will say to insult them, you may be skinny but you still have thunder thighs.
Etc, etc, etc.
I will say this one last time.
This thread is supposed to be about a lady who wants to know if her size/age is going to be detrimental to her career choice.
Not who is the most insulted body type. Fat v skinny.
It's petty and far away from an honest concern from a newbie.
Now let it go!

totally understand where your coming from but fat or skinny what ever the name calling is if you are not happy and confident in who you are then yes it will upset them, its a insult to say it would not, it use to really get me down oh how i wished i was curvey etc but now i have excepted who i am,
just because you would feel being skinny would feel better than being over weight does not mean thats how a skinny person would feel, and the most upsetting things i have heard as a skinny person is do you eat? do you really have children how? watch you dont fall down the drain or watch you dont get blown away or you look like a kid so dont tell me certain people feel diffrent just because of there looks its wrong!
my whole point in my posts was, it does not matter what you look like its about excepting who you are being confident in what you do and being happy that is all that matters nobody is going to be bothered about your size that goes for any job all they want to know is you would be good at the job,
and if people do want to judge then they just simply are not worth your time.

 

[ProperPrincess]

I have far less body issues being smaller so I disagree. I've weighed 8 and half stone and 14 stone and I was far less concerned about what people called me. The amount of people who said god your tiny, too small when I lost weight after my second child... Well I lost count. Did it ever insult me! No! I was proud of myself and did feel better exactly how susie said.

And I'm sorry but I find the suggestion that susie should lose weight as she's ranting over it insulting!

One of the prettiest girls on this thread... Is a self confessed "curvy" girl! She is talented and beautiful!

 

[lizzyu]

Yes Rhona it is offensive to say what you said. Just because someone is overweight it does not mean that they are unhealthy. What is more unhealthy is a therapist who smokes and lives off junk food.

I am 5'10 a size 22 and I am extremely proud to be so. My hair is always immaculate and so is the rest of my appearance. I am a good advertisement for the beauty industry because I am professional and look the part and I make my clients feel at ease. I am natural and that is the way I intend to stay.

the beauty industry is about making people feel better about themselves not flaunting your own beauty in front of them and saying "ha ha I am thin and pretty and don't you wish you could be the same?".

ludicrous!

 

[Tinxy]

I haven't read the whole of this as frankly I'd only be annoyed... However as someone mentioned their husband get upset at being called skinny - this is a genuine issue! A good friend of mine's husband has the same thing... he works out to the point of extreme! All because if he looks in the mirror he see's a tiny scrawny guy... And he hates it.
She has to monitor him so closely to make sure he doesn't stuff himself full of shakes and actually leaves the gym from time to time... now he's not a body builder but he spends more time in there than a lot of the guys training on the pro circuit.
So absolutely body image goes both ways...
Personally I'm very cuddly - so much so that my GP have agreed to send me to the specialist diet nurse who will probably stick me on the slimming world program... My problem is I snack... and don't exercise LOL But I can't afford the gym and I hate running lol So who knows *sigh* Irritating when your older stepsister is an ex Benetton model and is still slim...

 

[Susie H]

Susie - first of all lol

second - I think you are missing the point - nobody wants to be insulted because of their body size - you identify with the fat insults because you are overweight and have went through all that

but you are not getting that it can be as insulting too someone small to be called skinny - body issues dont go away jsut because you are smaller.

you seem on quite a rant there lol and i would say if it bothers you that much and gets to you like that then why not try losing some weight?

I don't know how more plainly I can put this. So try these examples;
You know Susie, the fat one, is far, far different from saying
You fat cow.
One is an unflattering description the other is an insult.

Your last point, why don't I try and loose some weight?
This is why people shouldn't shoot their mouths of.
I did loose weight, got all the way down to 8 stone 10. After a car crash.
Then I was side swiped while driving, suffered spinal injuries and confined to a wheel chair for just over a year, had to take loads of drugs including steroids, my weight shot up to 13 stone.
I will never be able to use a gym, my injuries were such that gyms consider me to be contra indicated and won't take the risk that while I'm in there I'll suffer further injury.
I can't walk more than 10yards without needing to sit down, that will never get better. I can't go swimming unless someone goes with me, if my back locks up, which it does often, I would drown.
Inspite of all that I have started to loose weight, slowly.
Would it bother me if someone described me as disabled? No, it's what I am. Would it bother me if someone called me a ******* cripple? Yes it would. The first describes my physical state, the second is intended to hurt my feelings.

 

[Rhona_]

Yes Rhona it is offensive to say what you said. Just because someone is overweight it does not mean that they are unhealthy. What is more unhealthy is a therapist who smokes and lives off junk food.

I am 5'10 a size 22 and I am extremely proud to be so. My hair is always immaculate and so is the rest of my appearance. I am a good advertisement for the beauty industry because I am professional and look the part and I make my clients feel at ease. I am natural and that is the way I intend to stay.

the beauty industry is about making people feel better about themselves not flaunting your own beauty in front of them and saying "ha ha I am thin and pretty and don't you wish you could be the same?".

ludicrous!

I'm sorry that you took offense, but as I said, it's just my personal opinion (which is by no means the majority opinion, according to the rest of this thread).

I was talking about people who appear unhealthily overweight - which is why I chose those words together in my original post - i.e. morbid obesity. I'm afraid obesity just isn't the vision of health, for me.

I agree that therapists that smoke and live off junk food are also leading unhealthy lifestyles. I'm unsure why you'd think this would counter my argument. My "I think it goes against everything I've learnt about healthy living over the years at college" line applies in this case too.

As for your last point about skinny therapists flaunting themselves.. Well, I'm not too sure where that came from, but I'll assume it wasn't directed at my post because it doesn't seem relative to anything that I'd said.

 

[Cat.]

I dont think it matters what size you are personally.. I certainlly wouldnt be put off by someones size.. I am a size 6-8 and i dont think people feel uncomfortable with me.. Its your personality and the quality of your work that count i have many clients that say they wouldnt have a spray tan unless it was with me as they feel comfortable with me and i think thats all about personality and how i am with them!!

I would also just like to point out that being skinny isnt always something people can help.. I dropped to 7 stone when i was diagnosed with ibs, the losing weight was beyond my control as my ibs is affected by stress mostly.. My weight is now normal for my size.. Yes im small but i also eat mc donalds and chips and chinese.. I think everyone has issues whatever ther size and i think everyone is different.. It doesnt really matter what your size is

And too original poster.. Good luck with everything.. You will do great.. Be yourself and be confident and thats all that matters

 

[WaxGirl]

I don't know how more plainly I can put this. So try these examples;
You know Susie, the fat one, is far, far different from saying
You fat cow.
One is an unflattering description the other is an insult.

Your last point, why don't I try and loose some weight?
This is why people shouldn't shoot their mouths of.
I did loose weight, got all the way down to 8 stone 10. After a car crash.
Then I was side swiped while driving, suffered spinal injuries and confined to a wheel chair for just over a year, had to take loads of drugs including steroids, my weight shot up to 13 stone.
I will never be able to use a gym, my injuries were such that gyms consider me to be contra indicated and won't take the risk that while I'm in there I'll suffer further injury.
I can't walk more than 10yards without needing to sit down, that will never get better. I can't go swimming unless someone goes with me, if my back locks up, which it does often, I would drown.
Inspite of all that I have started to loose weight, slowly.
Would it bother me if someone described me as disabled? No, it's what I am. Would it bother me if someone called me a ******* cripple? Yes it would. The first describes my physical state, the second is intended to hurt my feelings.

well done on the weight loss, dont worry about the exercise because if you control your diet you'll lose weight without it

 

[gr8nailz]

Not sure if this is the correct place, but wanted to know what people think about being overweight in the beauty industry. I am overweight and am just starting out in the industry I'm also over 40 ! Do you think I will stand a chance in the industry ?

Holy Crap! This thread has gone a-wry.

Angie, here's my opinion for what it's worth.

Look at my avatar. What do you see? Do you see a pretty woman there? You do, right? Here's the low-down.

I am 50 years old, 5 feet tall and I weight 159 lbs. I wear a size 10/12 which would be considered large for my height. I'm a curvy Latina woman. But I am hottie and turn heads where ever I go. I'm not young. I'm not thin. I'm no freakin' super model. But I'm a stunner. You know why? Because I am a confident woman. Beauty is derived from confidence.

Carry yourself with confidence and you will do well in the beauty industry. Keep yourself beautifully groomed, fashionably dressed and immaculately manicured and your clients will barely notice the fact that you're plus-sized.

They will only notice that you are beautiful.

 

[Noodle]

I think it's time this thread was closed.