nuttynikki
Well-Known Member
hi all,this is a long one!
i have a bit of a dilema and its starting to really make me mad!! i have a step sister who is getting married in april, i only met her a yr ago and in that yr, only seen each other 4 times.
in a years time, me and hubby are moving to surrey(not a cheap area!) as he is leaving the raf to work at gatwick. anyway, money is so tight at the mo(i am currently job searching as at the moment i only do nails)
we have sat and worked out a plan as to how we are going to manage our finances etc... basically our priority is to pay off a large loan my hubby has, which means selling our beloved cars! so we have a year to get our finances under control, its gonna be a real struggle for us and alot of sacrifices have been made, but we are prepared for that now as its the rest of our lives we are talking about!
anyway, to get back on the subject, we have realised that we cant afford a wedding as the costs will be: petrol:£40 accommodation=£60 drinks=£? alot prob! outfit=? i dont have anything in my wardrobe that is wedding suitable at the mo! so to us that is alot of money, also i am a bridesmaid 3 weeks later for my best friend who i have known since i was 4!! so we are currently trying to save for that too!!! so in my eyes, we cant afford both, and as i hardly know my step sister!
but my dad has been hassling me saying " you should be there, we are an extended famly now etc... if you dont go then your sisters may not go"
but ive explained it to him, i dont want to upset him but it cant be helped!!!!
so im a bit angry now, especially as he got married so quick after leaving my mum, and he thinks we should all be this one big happy family! my own grandad, 'lost' my xmas card and pressy but calls my step sisters his grandchildren and didnt forget them at xmas!! i know i prob sound childish but im still a bit hurt and the fact my dad is trying to push me to go to this wedding annoys me(oh yeh, he never came to my wedding last yr,nor did my grandad) ok so im still trying to adapt to it all but it does boil down to the fact we have no money!!
sorry for going on a bit, i hope ive not bored u too much.
xx
so ok, part of m
i have a bit of a dilema and its starting to really make me mad!! i have a step sister who is getting married in april, i only met her a yr ago and in that yr, only seen each other 4 times.
in a years time, me and hubby are moving to surrey(not a cheap area!) as he is leaving the raf to work at gatwick. anyway, money is so tight at the mo(i am currently job searching as at the moment i only do nails)
we have sat and worked out a plan as to how we are going to manage our finances etc... basically our priority is to pay off a large loan my hubby has, which means selling our beloved cars! so we have a year to get our finances under control, its gonna be a real struggle for us and alot of sacrifices have been made, but we are prepared for that now as its the rest of our lives we are talking about!
anyway, to get back on the subject, we have realised that we cant afford a wedding as the costs will be: petrol:£40 accommodation=£60 drinks=£? alot prob! outfit=? i dont have anything in my wardrobe that is wedding suitable at the mo! so to us that is alot of money, also i am a bridesmaid 3 weeks later for my best friend who i have known since i was 4!! so we are currently trying to save for that too!!! so in my eyes, we cant afford both, and as i hardly know my step sister!
but my dad has been hassling me saying " you should be there, we are an extended famly now etc... if you dont go then your sisters may not go"
but ive explained it to him, i dont want to upset him but it cant be helped!!!!
so im a bit angry now, especially as he got married so quick after leaving my mum, and he thinks we should all be this one big happy family! my own grandad, 'lost' my xmas card and pressy but calls my step sisters his grandchildren and didnt forget them at xmas!! i know i prob sound childish but im still a bit hurt and the fact my dad is trying to push me to go to this wedding annoys me(oh yeh, he never came to my wedding last yr,nor did my grandad) ok so im still trying to adapt to it all but it does boil down to the fact we have no money!!
sorry for going on a bit, i hope ive not bored u too much.
xx
so ok, part of m