dudeymel
Well-Known Member
Hey everyone, just a bit of a whinge really. I have a group of friends that are all smokers with me being the only non smoker, I don't have a problem with smoking at all, my problem is spending a good chunk of my time with them sat on my own while they all go outside for a smoke. It's really started to bother me lately because I'm starting to feel left out. When we go to the pub together there's a group of about 8 of us and they are constantly going out for a smoke and because they are all outside together they inevitably end up chatting and they're out there for ages and I'm left on my own looking lonely to mind the bags or I go out and freeze (you really feel the cold when you've got no motivation to be out in it) and end up annoyed that I'm constantly up and down just so I'm not excluded from the convo. I went out last night with 3 of my friends to the bingo (exciting I know) and every interval they were straight out for a smoke so I spent the whole time in silence when we were playing and the whole interval time on my own, I may aswell have gone on my own. I get left out of convos so I'm the last to hear everything, I feel left out and lonely when I'm with them and it's making me feel like I don't want to go out with them anymore. They'll always ask if im alright on my own but it's always as they're walking off and if I ask someone to stay with me they get annoyed because everyone else is out there for ages my only option is to just keep following them outside when they go but it's starting to make me feel quite bitter because I just want to go out for a chat nd chill out in the warm, not be stood around waiting in the cold xx