River said:
Been there, done that and bought the T-Shirt (twice it would seem)
I know how it feels and it's killing me that I'm going through it again. He called earlier on to say that he will be going to Elgin (Scotland) to help a friend move this weekend and won't be coming with me to drop my sister off at the airport.
I'm sorry, but I can't help wondering why he would be going back to Scotland again this weekend ........
Could always change the locks for when he comes home!!
No seriously, I think you know what you have to do, it can be very daunting, but I left my ex after 18 years in the clothes I stood in, three garden tubs, chest of drawers and a portable television. I left him with insurance policies and assests up to nearly half a million.
It was one of the best things I ever did, money didnt matter, though I did sometimes wonder how I would cope, but when you have to, you do.,,, that's the female survival mode kicking in. I found a place to rent in the short term, and eventually managed to get the house I'm in now.
Must add, my ex is penniless, has been in and out of psychiatric hospitals, remarried on the rebound and that has gone sour,,,,and he's ended up one sad and lonely man,,,,,,,,,,,on the other side, I'm going from strenght to strength and have never been happier.
Don't settle for second best,you deserve the best for yourself,,,,,,,you don't need a man to be successfull, if you find one though, it's a bonus,,,,I found a fantastic one when it was the farthest thing from my mind.,,and he's just gorgeous in every way.
Life has it's own way of working out for us all,,,trust your instincts and your gut feeling and go with them.
Things will work out for you, it will be tuff at times, but stay positive, it will be worth it.
Christine