I totally agree with your point, i have friends who have done this and it makes me sick.
I thought I was going to be supported and wouldnt have to be on benefits, but even the best relationships can go tits up, thats what happens, now Im alone.
But if I had got pregnant, known i would have to claim benefits, and not had a boyfriend to support me, would i have had an abortion just to keep the taxpayers happy? NO WAY.
I know thats changing the subject slightly, but it goes along with the points some of you have made.
But whats the difference with discussing it even? ive got £700 rent, £200 council tax, gas, electric, food, clothing, and everything else to buy. Theres no way I can get a job right now with no qualifications except in nails, and I cant make enough money to live on. That makes me feel truly crap. cos I cant even take care of my daughter the way I should. Im deeply ashamed by my situation and would do anything to change it, but right now I cant. Im even having to consider giving up doing nails cos its getting too expensive and im not making any money back from doing my friends nails for free.
And someone said how people get so much from benefits that its not worth them going back to work, this is rubbish, I have a very small amount of money every week, and with the recent cold weather, Ive been spending so much money on gas to try to heat up my flat that I couldnt even afford food shopping last week. so to hear that people in my situation are apparently livivng it up, gettings their nails done, and having a good time is totally alien to me.
I really dont want people to feel sorry for me, the last thing I want is pity, just thought some of you could do with seeing it from my side.