Hi geeks,
I wouldnt usually come on to air something like this but i need an "outsiders" point of view, or maybe someone with experience in the social services or dealing with them.
Ok.....grab ur cuppas this could be a long one (dont say i didnt warn u haha) yesterday started out as a normal school morning (runnin round like a headless chicken trying to get out on time, im sure u all know the drill) anyway, my eldest (5) was in the bathroom being naughty (as boys do) got told off and carried to his room for a few minutes......my friend takes him to school every wednesday (i take her girl on a thursday,mwe take it in turns) so went to my friends house for a cuppa and a chin wag (as you do) she then sat there an said just thought id let you know jack said mike strangled him round the neck (his step-dad) this morning. As anybody would be, i was MORTIFIED! i said no he didnt he was getting told off and sent to his room, i was there an seen it happen. Goes on with my day, comes to around half 4, phone rings....."school"......i thought, i know exactly wat this is about......answers it is the headmistress......by this point im shaking like a ****ting dog thinking OH MY GOD wat has he said. To cut the phone call down he had basically told the teacher what he told my friend, and after being looked at by the teacher and head teacher he didnt have a mark on him (which i was told if he had even touched him on the kneck/hurt him it wouldve marked, apparantly the neck is quite sensitive) anyway, she said to me "you know we have no concerns over jack, he always comes in in a good happy mood, hes doing really well in school work (got a deputy head teachers award last friday PROUD MOMENT i nearly cried haha) as i was saying, he is always an all around happy little boy, but because of the sensistivity of something like this they have to phone social services.
At this point im ready to have a bloody breakdown (theres some other stuff thats going on st the minute that im stressingover, but thats a different story lol) doesnt help i woke up this morning with a face full of spots from the stress of everything.
Ok so bearing in mind that phone call was half 4........social services were at my door at 6!!!!!!!
Give them there due they dont waste there time.
Although, i wanted to know does anyone know if its protocol that the school has to go straight to the social be4 telling me?? I was rather taken back by the fact i was the last person to know.....and as any mother would be totally mortified at the fact she has social services knocking on the door!
I know, and as alot of family and friends have said, he comes from a very close family, loved a million times over and is spoilt by everyone. Obviously as this accusation is over my partner, my partner hasnt taken it very well, was nearly sick this morning and as they do, has been taking it out on me, snappy, cranky.....u know the score!
My boss used to work for social servcies but hasnt for quite a few years so can only say wat they used to do when she was there and is unsure if anything has changed.
I love both my boys and so does there dad he would never do anything like that if i thought he would i wouldnt be with the man, everything i do is for to make them happy, and if anything like that did happen.......its b me getting done for GBH on whoever hurt them haha (i try to crack jokes to make light of a situation, its the way i try an deal with things, not everyones cup of tea with the sensitive nature)
Im basically looking for an outsiders persepective? If you were a social worker what would you say? have you had any experience with something like this?
Please can we keep it nice, i feel crappy enough as it and dont know wat to do next, ive made an appointment to go see the head tomorrow mornign be4 work to talk things over, as the social workers didnt really say much.
Xoxoxox
I wouldnt usually come on to air something like this but i need an "outsiders" point of view, or maybe someone with experience in the social services or dealing with them.
Ok.....grab ur cuppas this could be a long one (dont say i didnt warn u haha) yesterday started out as a normal school morning (runnin round like a headless chicken trying to get out on time, im sure u all know the drill) anyway, my eldest (5) was in the bathroom being naughty (as boys do) got told off and carried to his room for a few minutes......my friend takes him to school every wednesday (i take her girl on a thursday,mwe take it in turns) so went to my friends house for a cuppa and a chin wag (as you do) she then sat there an said just thought id let you know jack said mike strangled him round the neck (his step-dad) this morning. As anybody would be, i was MORTIFIED! i said no he didnt he was getting told off and sent to his room, i was there an seen it happen. Goes on with my day, comes to around half 4, phone rings....."school"......i thought, i know exactly wat this is about......answers it is the headmistress......by this point im shaking like a ****ting dog thinking OH MY GOD wat has he said. To cut the phone call down he had basically told the teacher what he told my friend, and after being looked at by the teacher and head teacher he didnt have a mark on him (which i was told if he had even touched him on the kneck/hurt him it wouldve marked, apparantly the neck is quite sensitive) anyway, she said to me "you know we have no concerns over jack, he always comes in in a good happy mood, hes doing really well in school work (got a deputy head teachers award last friday PROUD MOMENT i nearly cried haha) as i was saying, he is always an all around happy little boy, but because of the sensistivity of something like this they have to phone social services.
At this point im ready to have a bloody breakdown (theres some other stuff thats going on st the minute that im stressingover, but thats a different story lol) doesnt help i woke up this morning with a face full of spots from the stress of everything.
Ok so bearing in mind that phone call was half 4........social services were at my door at 6!!!!!!!
Give them there due they dont waste there time.
Although, i wanted to know does anyone know if its protocol that the school has to go straight to the social be4 telling me?? I was rather taken back by the fact i was the last person to know.....and as any mother would be totally mortified at the fact she has social services knocking on the door!
I know, and as alot of family and friends have said, he comes from a very close family, loved a million times over and is spoilt by everyone. Obviously as this accusation is over my partner, my partner hasnt taken it very well, was nearly sick this morning and as they do, has been taking it out on me, snappy, cranky.....u know the score!
My boss used to work for social servcies but hasnt for quite a few years so can only say wat they used to do when she was there and is unsure if anything has changed.
I love both my boys and so does there dad he would never do anything like that if i thought he would i wouldnt be with the man, everything i do is for to make them happy, and if anything like that did happen.......its b me getting done for GBH on whoever hurt them haha (i try to crack jokes to make light of a situation, its the way i try an deal with things, not everyones cup of tea with the sensitive nature)
Im basically looking for an outsiders persepective? If you were a social worker what would you say? have you had any experience with something like this?
Please can we keep it nice, i feel crappy enough as it and dont know wat to do next, ive made an appointment to go see the head tomorrow mornign be4 work to talk things over, as the social workers didnt really say much.
Xoxoxox