PixieBeauty
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I believe what goes around comes around!!! xx
Yes! I really believe this is true
I believe what goes around comes around!!! xx
I have to disagree about the girl. Although it is not right to deliberately go after taken men I think the blame lies entirely with the person who is in the relationship! If a man can't even say no even if it's put on a plate then that's his fault and he is the one who is in a relationship!
Don't get me wrong it is out if order to go after someone you know is in a relationship but ultimately it's him to blame. He is the one who is meant to love and care about his girlfriend/ wife!
I had many "taken" men chat me up on facebook and its not always the woman that chases the taken man. I think women tend to turn on the other woman in order to make excuses for their mans behaviour! If my man cheated on me I would blame him for not saying no! Even if some girl threw herself at him I'd expect him to love me enough to not do anything!
So to me the blame is 100% on the person actually in a relationship.
Great thread with some very interesting points. Just to throw a spin on things I'd like to know whether you would tell on a cheat, and if not, why not? Also, how would you go about it? The information could ruin lives, could you live with knowing you played a part in that?
I for one would want to be told if my husband was playing away. My loyalty is to me and my children, not for someone who shows no respect for me! Fortunately, my husband is AMAZING! 14 years together, 9years married, three beautiful children. But, that's not to say its all plain sailing, even good relationships can be very hard work!
Absolutely true.I have to disagree about the girl. Although it is not right to deliberately go after taken men I think the blame lies entirely with the person who is in the relationship! If a man can't even say no even if it's put on a plate then that's his fault and he is the one who is in a relationship!
Don't get me wrong it is out if order to go after someone you know is in a relationship but ultimately it's him to blame. He is the one who is meant to love and care about his girlfriend/ wife!
I had many "taken" men chat me up on facebook and its not always the woman that chases the taken man. I think women tend to turn on the other woman in order to make excuses for their mans behaviour! If my man cheated on me I would blame him for not saying no! Even if some girl threw herself at him I'd expect him to love me enough to not do anything!
So to me the blame is 100% on the person actually in a relationship.
Absolutely true.
The 'other woman' or the 'other man' did not commit their lives to you ... that would be the husband or the wife!!
The husband (or wife) is the one who stood next to you on your wedding day and promised to love and respect you to the day he died.
Not the other person. They owe you nothing.
It doesn't make their involvement with one's husband/wife ok of course!
But the anger should be directed at the correct person and that is the husband or wife.
Even if the 'other person' pursues the husband/wife it is the responsibility of the married party to refuse ... nothing to do with the pursuer.
And as has already been said a pursuer of married people have serious issues of their own to deal with.
If someone who is in a committed relationship finds their head being turned by a third person, they need to go home and have a serious conversation.
Because something is wrong somewhere.
Give the person sitting at home the chance to decide if they still wish to continue in the relationship.
Instead of them finding out somewhere much further down the line that the infidelity is a fait accompli.
Hi all, hope nobody minds me posting this but it's something that comes up occasionally in chit-chat posts about relationships.
I'm asking a totally HYPOTHETICAL question here, but from someone who has been cheated on, I'd like to hear general opinions.
I always used to think I'd forgive a cheater. Definitely. Because for one person to have cheated there's something that's gone wrong in the relationship, it takes two people to work at it etc.
So I was cheated on...and I forgave him. Of course we had things to work on etc....a couple of years passed and he did it again. I ignored all my friends first time who said once a cheater, always a cheater. I figure we can all screw up from time to time.
So the second time round we called it a day. Within weeks I met the guy I'm with now, and frankly this is how it should be. 18 months in and it occurred to me the other day, why on EARTH did I think I deserved anything less than being with a guy that wouldn't cheat on me?? I couldn't quite believe what I'd thought I was supposed to put up with & forgive.
So, bit of my perspective there but hypothetically - would you forgive a partner that cheated on you?? Xx
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