blossom
Well-Known Member
Hi everyone, as the titles suggests I'm having trouble disciplining my 16 month old so I'm asking for suggestions and advice if you'd be so kind!
The trouble is she doesn't really understand what I'm saying so if I tell her off she just looks at me and then does it again. For example, she's just tipped a big beaker full of milk all over the sofa. No milk at all then,unless in a babys beaker or unless she's stood in the kitchen by the sink.
I said NO in a stern voice, took the beaker away and went to get a wet tea towel. She then stood with me happily cleaning it up, thinking it was all a game. shows she wants to do things with you. This is great!
When I need to wash up, within 10 seconds she's emptied the kitchen cupboards. If she lets you get on and wash up, SHE can have a dabble in some cooler water with some plastic bits maybe in a bowl on the floor? Thats presuming you're not too pushed for time. When I try to eat my breakfast she steals my food then drops a tennis ball in my coffee cup (funny the first time!)If you laughed the first time, maybe she keeps thinking you'll laugh again? Try crying - honesty they hate you upset! When I'm on the loo she unravels the loo roll and runs away with it :lol: Don't allow her in with you till she can manage NOT to.When I sweep the kitchen, she stands in the pile and kicks the dirt all over the floor. Get a little broom and sweep up together, followed by a piggyback round the kitchen or something - one day she might want to do it for you all by herself ! When I use the laptop, she presses the OFF button (and she KNOWS this is not allowed!) Does she have a kind of baby laptop so she can join you? Think she wants your attention tho!!
I know she's pushing boundaries and that's normal for her age, but I don't know how to show her the difference between what's naughty and what's a game, as she doesn't seem to understand what I say?!
Sorry to be really annoying, sounds like I have an answer for everything and I Don't - just my thoughts and probably what I would have done with my two.
I don't think at this age they understand punishment particularly although they like to make you cross because ANY attention is better than none (at that moment - I'm not saying you ignore her )
Try to let any small issues go, whilst rewarding any good behaviour tenfold, and exaggerating your pleasure, they like to make you cross but they like to make you HAPPY even better!! Smiles, hugs, laughing, whooping, dancing round and jumping about - responding with these will definitely encourage good behaviour to be repeated over and over!!
Good luck though, maybe I was quite lucky because my two never tried my patience that much (or maybe I have loads). It is time consuming but you don't get those years back once they've gone so fast forwarding your brain to a point where they don't want you quite so much, and then looking back at the current situation, can sometimes make you more patient and tolerant. My girls are now mid teens and we are all very close.