Paying for extra training v paying your wage?

[pure]

Hubby and I had our first row about my business last night.:cry:

I happened to say that I was going to book in for a CND skill building course with a view to perhaps working towards my masters in time. He says that I should be just consolidating what I already do, build on that and start taking a bigger wage from the business instead of "wasting money on courses I don't need!" :irked:

I am now in a quandary. I know that with extra education I can improve my skills and my timings, which will mean more clients in x hours than I can already do. I tried explaining this to him and he won't have it.

What do you guys all do when your other half has opinions on your business?

I really want to do the extra trianing but he just doesn't uunderstand.

 

[fifitrix]

Hi Debs, I hope you and hubby are speaking now. Extra training will improve your skills and in effect benefit your business. Sometimes our other half's just see the money getting paid out instead of the benefits that will be gained.

I would perhaps say to him to wait and see how it will benefit your business once you have done your skill-building etc., I also find that after having extra training it gives you a boost and a renewed enthusiasm, so hopefully he will see that too. :hug:

 

[Katelisa]

who's business is it?! yours! so just tell him to go 'boil his heed' as my grandad would say lol.

you know what the needs of your business are. he cannot possibly understand about timings etc, to him its just stickin on nails.

untill he fully understands and appreciates what you do, then he will never have a good enough grasp on the concept to have any say in what you do!

Im so glad i dont have a husband to answer to lol.

 

[suzie49]

I am one of the lucky ones my partner always backs me up in whatever I do, or has done up to now. Long may it continue. But it has entered my head what would happen if this sort of situation cropped up.
Is there anyway you could write down like a business plan, what you intend to train for and what you goals would be from that...the out goings ..and proposed income you would gain? Maybe if you set it out and talked to him about it rather than ..oh I'm thinking of doing some more training, he might feel more involved and see where your going with it?
Just a thought ....:hug: X

 

[fiona wallace]

Additional training will not only benefit the business but you personally too. Apart from the obvious benefits to your clients, who are and will be your business, there are the added advantages of building your confidence and self-worth and also being re-enthused and motivated to increase your business.

This is what a training day should always do.

It is your business, and I have to say there have been times when I've been very tempted to tell my hubby 'to go away and bile his heed' :lol::lol: when he tries to tell me how to run my business, however he's usually coming from a place of fear or frustration. Once you know what's behind his comments it might make it easier to discuss it.

Or you could just ignore him

As for making up a business plan, etc., one of the biggest advantages of running your own business is not having to answer to anyone and this feels a bit like having an appraisal with your boss in order to justify your job.

 

[michelle g]

They just don't understand do they!
you need to put money in to get money out so to speak.
that's they way I always put it.
I'm lucky my hubby just goes with the flow.
with any job you do there is normally on going training and the same applies in this industry.
I would sit down and explain to him how this extra training will benefit
your business and how much more money you could be earning.
and how you desperately need to do it and go on and on and on that should do the trick lol.
oh and sulk lol
hope you get it sorted:hug:

 

[fiona wallace]

oh and sulk lol

Or do what was suggested in another recent thread... just hit him with a cricket bat:lol::lol::lol:

Sorry, I know this serious:|

 

[mikem]

I'll be logical about this as I think the answer is 'it depends'.

If the business is paying it's way, paying back the investment and is not a drain on family income, the training seems sensible. It will build competence, confidence, customers and cash.

If the business is a drain on family finance you need to think carefully. In that case increasing the wage and taking a bit longer to save for the training may be a better option for you.

Also I don't see this as an either or thing. You could delay training or raise your wage slightly which would keep hubby happy and allow you to squirrel some training money away.

Fundamentally you should be putting money away for training every year to ensure you keep your skills up to date.

In terms of the debate, men usually react to logic so show him the business plan and how you see it building your business. If you say, 'I'll be faster and better and I'll make more money' it won't cut it; demonstrating and investment of x hundred pounds now will result in increasing turnover by yyy and profitability by zzz has no emotion in it and will probably be the convincer he needs.

Hope this helps

Mike

 

[beautynails]

What if you were to set aside a percentage of your earnings to invest in building business? That is education, new services/products etc..........How do you think he'd respond to that?

 

[loubylou]

I would just say that this is what i plan on doing for MY business, thank you for your input but i will make the decisions in MY business,
and remind him where you keep the cricket bat lol :wink2:

 

[pure]

Thanks guys for your words of wisdom.:hug:

And I love the cricket bat idea!!:lol:

The annoying thing is that he runs his own business and I wouldn't dream of telling him what he can and can't do with it. i think he' going to have to learn to trust me.

 

[Katelisa]

Thanks guys for your words of wisdom.:hug:

And I love the cricket bat idea!!:lol:

The annoying thing is that he runs his own business and I wouldn't dream of telling him what he can and can't do with it. i think he' going to have to learn to trust me.

He's not just trusting you, he's trusting allll of us aswell lol. :green:

 

[pure]

He's not just trusting you, he's trusting allll of us aswell lol. :green:

Lol I'll tell him that - it ought to frighten him!!!!!:lol::lol: