Sara Satchell
Well-Known Member
Where do I start....
This has been the WORST week of my life for a long time. It all began on Monday...
Where I live, there are some privatley owned alleys out the back of the houses. It's a local gathering ground most nights for the "youth" of the village - where they hang around, tipping bins over, smearing sh*t over your cars, smoking, throwing stones into my yard (to annoy my dog) and generally making lots of noise. I've been out umpteen times before to tell them to move on - sometimes politley, sometimes not - you ALWAYS get a mouthful of abuse either way. Last time I had to go out they had been annoying Charlie (my dog) and I told them if they didn't stop i'd let him out and he'd bite them...
Anyhows - on Monday - there was about 10 of them out there - so I asked Ray (hubby) to go and move them on. Upon asking them to go somewhere else one of the lads (about 14) stepped up to him - blew smoke in his face and said "what you goin to do about it ya pussy?" at this Ray lost his rag and pushed the lad - who fell over backwards. Then followed alot of shouting and pushing and shoving - the other lads ganged around Ray - but I couldn't see clearly what exactly was happening. After a couple of mins, he came back in...we had words because I said he shouldn't have pushed the lad....He rang the police to explain what had happened, and to report the lads. The police said they would come by later..
About an hour later, a policeman knocked on the door, asked to speak to Ray... He wanted to "invite" him into the police station to give a statement as the lads had gone and dialled 999 and said that Charlie had bitten 3 of them. The police were only there because of the 999 call - not beause of our call! Ray is more than likely going to be charged with not being in control of a dangerous dog (you'd have to know my dog to know how ludicrous that is - I have 3 children, and would trust charlie with their lives - but yes he would bite if he was pushed enough, or to protect one of us) and Charlie may have to be destroyed. I cant allow this to happen - my children (and I) will be absolutley devastated. Im worried sick about what will happen to him and to Ray...
Then, on Wedensday night, we were travelling home and we past a really bad accident - someone had hit a tree, spun across the road and wrapped their car around a lampost. It had just happened - so we stopped to help...it was my brother in law. He was in very bad shock - but not hurt seriously - it's a miracle he wasnt dead. I know the outcome could have been alot worse but I can't stop thinking about it. For 30 seconds - when his car was spinning - he was sure that was it and he was going to die - and I can't get that out of my head. Life is so precious - you never know when your times up...
The thing is - he never normally wears a seatbelt - but that night he did and he said the seatbelt DEFINATLEY saved his life...Something good could come out of this if everyone reading this made sure they wore a belt every time they got into a car - no matter how short the journey..
Finally - I had a big row with Ben (my eldest son - 10) tonight. Him and Lucy (my daughter) had been physically fighting and he'd ended up biting her. I smacked him quite hard (something I very rarely do) because I was so cross - I hate biting. Now I feel like cr*p - I feel so guilty....I've talked to him and apologised, and explained why I got cross but I just feel unfit as a parent.
I know i'm on a real downer here - and i've waffled on and on - but I need to empty my head (if you know what I mean). Theres other stuff going on that I can't really discuss too - but all in all - most definatley my week from hell.
This has been the WORST week of my life for a long time. It all began on Monday...
Where I live, there are some privatley owned alleys out the back of the houses. It's a local gathering ground most nights for the "youth" of the village - where they hang around, tipping bins over, smearing sh*t over your cars, smoking, throwing stones into my yard (to annoy my dog) and generally making lots of noise. I've been out umpteen times before to tell them to move on - sometimes politley, sometimes not - you ALWAYS get a mouthful of abuse either way. Last time I had to go out they had been annoying Charlie (my dog) and I told them if they didn't stop i'd let him out and he'd bite them...
Anyhows - on Monday - there was about 10 of them out there - so I asked Ray (hubby) to go and move them on. Upon asking them to go somewhere else one of the lads (about 14) stepped up to him - blew smoke in his face and said "what you goin to do about it ya pussy?" at this Ray lost his rag and pushed the lad - who fell over backwards. Then followed alot of shouting and pushing and shoving - the other lads ganged around Ray - but I couldn't see clearly what exactly was happening. After a couple of mins, he came back in...we had words because I said he shouldn't have pushed the lad....He rang the police to explain what had happened, and to report the lads. The police said they would come by later..
About an hour later, a policeman knocked on the door, asked to speak to Ray... He wanted to "invite" him into the police station to give a statement as the lads had gone and dialled 999 and said that Charlie had bitten 3 of them. The police were only there because of the 999 call - not beause of our call! Ray is more than likely going to be charged with not being in control of a dangerous dog (you'd have to know my dog to know how ludicrous that is - I have 3 children, and would trust charlie with their lives - but yes he would bite if he was pushed enough, or to protect one of us) and Charlie may have to be destroyed. I cant allow this to happen - my children (and I) will be absolutley devastated. Im worried sick about what will happen to him and to Ray...
Then, on Wedensday night, we were travelling home and we past a really bad accident - someone had hit a tree, spun across the road and wrapped their car around a lampost. It had just happened - so we stopped to help...it was my brother in law. He was in very bad shock - but not hurt seriously - it's a miracle he wasnt dead. I know the outcome could have been alot worse but I can't stop thinking about it. For 30 seconds - when his car was spinning - he was sure that was it and he was going to die - and I can't get that out of my head. Life is so precious - you never know when your times up...
The thing is - he never normally wears a seatbelt - but that night he did and he said the seatbelt DEFINATLEY saved his life...Something good could come out of this if everyone reading this made sure they wore a belt every time they got into a car - no matter how short the journey..
Finally - I had a big row with Ben (my eldest son - 10) tonight. Him and Lucy (my daughter) had been physically fighting and he'd ended up biting her. I smacked him quite hard (something I very rarely do) because I was so cross - I hate biting. Now I feel like cr*p - I feel so guilty....I've talked to him and apologised, and explained why I got cross but I just feel unfit as a parent.
I know i'm on a real downer here - and i've waffled on and on - but I need to empty my head (if you know what I mean). Theres other stuff going on that I can't really discuss too - but all in all - most definatley my week from hell.