Wrong to not let boyfriend watch?
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As the lady who originally posted about this i would just like to say i don't know where on earth you.ve got this notion that in some way i was sexist!
1. The man in question was NOT the client and wanted to WATCH.
2. I would not feel comfortable ANYONE watching, a male, female or any one! It should be just me and my client when doing intimate waxing.
3. I own a UNISEX salon and as i do mostly massage, the vast majority of my clients are men, and i never treat them any differently, i have had bad experiences and good. I have had men get erections while doing massage and I understand this is something they cannot help.
4. It is MY salon and if i sense there is something amiss then it is my choice to react how i see fit to keep me and my staff safe.
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Have read this thread with interest. There is no sexism here at all. You know sometimes the people that get cross with women being weary of men maybe perhaps need to look at this from another point of view.... be cross and angry with the men that have attacked/assaulted/raped a woman. They are the ones letting other males down.
As women we do have to protect ourselves, that doesn't mean for one minute we think every man on this planet is a pervert or wants to bed us or whatever. It simply means we have to make a decision based on how someone has made us feel, instincts can be right or they can be wrong but I for one would not like to go against a feeling I had only to find out the very hard way that that particular person should not have been trusted.
You know its the same thing with stranger danger that we teach our children, not every person on this planet will abduct a child, so should I be telling my child now that he can talk to anyone, cos hey not everyone is a kidnapper/child molester? No, I tell my child about stranger danger because there are unsavoury people out there, and as a mother it is my responsibility to look after him.
OP the man in question did not need to be in your treatment room, you did not need to put yourself in a position you were uncomfortable with. I do believe yourself and many others have said that the man AND the woman made you feel uncomfortable, so I hardly call it a sexist point of view if you include both sexes. You did absolutely the right thing honey, good on you for holding your ground. If it was all above board, then most normal folk would have spoken to you and explained that your lady client was uncomfortable and nervous, therefore she wanted her boyfriend in for moral support, the fact remains they kicked off and said they wanted to inspect your work. Well done you for remaining professional xxxxx
As women we do have to protect ourselves, that doesn't mean for one minute we think every man on this planet is a pervert or wants to bed us or whatever. It simply means we have to make a decision based on how someone has made us feel, instincts can be right or they can be wrong but I for one would not like to go against a feeling I had only to find out the very hard way that that particular person should not have been trusted.
You know its the same thing with stranger danger that we teach our children, not every person on this planet will abduct a child, so should I be telling my child now that he can talk to anyone, cos hey not everyone is a kidnapper/child molester? No, I tell my child about stranger danger because there are unsavoury people out there, and as a mother it is my responsibility to look after him.
OP the man in question did not need to be in your treatment room, you did not need to put yourself in a position you were uncomfortable with. I do believe yourself and many others have said that the man AND the woman made you feel uncomfortable, so I hardly call it a sexist point of view if you include both sexes. You did absolutely the right thing honey, good on you for holding your ground. If it was all above board, then most normal folk would have spoken to you and explained that your lady client was uncomfortable and nervous, therefore she wanted her boyfriend in for moral support, the fact remains they kicked off and said they wanted to inspect your work. Well done you for remaining professional xxxxx
....and on that note I think we shall end this discussion.
It was asked and answered within the first couple of pages after all, the basic rule always is never do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
Possibly the subject of sexism in our Industry is one for a other thread, and being ever the optimist I hope it could be discussed and debated without degenerating into arguments or intimate details being posted all over the Internet.
We are after all grown ups....whatever generation or gender we belong to.
It was asked and answered within the first couple of pages after all, the basic rule always is never do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
Possibly the subject of sexism in our Industry is one for a other thread, and being ever the optimist I hope it could be discussed and debated without degenerating into arguments or intimate details being posted all over the Internet.
We are after all grown ups....whatever generation or gender we belong to.
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