CadenceAlex
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I have a neighbour who lives around the back of our block of cottages. She is 28, on benefits and has a 9 year old girl. She works cleaning a pub and gets cash in hand.
She causes murders for all the neighbours by doing sly things.. trampled on one guys allotments, rings the police to report trivia and shouts at anyone who dares tell her that her alarm has been going off all day.. etc. she is just a spiteful girl.
She said to me, why are you having twins? (She is big time jealous that I have a baby as she wants one so bad, she and her 9 year old often talk about how 'mummy can have a baby'). I said that I didn't ask for twins, and was quite shocked at her comment. She said to me, but you don't look after the one you've got. I explained that I work and Cadence is in childcare - which she knows. She said I may aswell not have them because I wont look after them and asked me if it bothers me that my daughters childminder takes her to baby groups etc etc. She was quite nasty. She told me she is a 'full time mummy' and she was there with her daughter for everything and blah de blah de blah.
She was really insulting and in the end I said to her.
Well, we both work hard and save money for Cadence and I want Cadence to know that when she grows up, the right thing to do is have a job and not get pregnant and live on benefits all her life. I told her that her daughter has behavioural diffculties because she herself is entirely innapropriate with her conversation around her child and that she is ridiculous for calling herself a 'full time mum' when her child is in school all day. I asked her why doesn't she get a job whilst her daughter is in school. She said it wouldn't be worth it!!!!
Her child is like the adult. Her mum keeps her off school for any reason and shouts and bawls at her.
Now, don't get me wrong , I am not slagging single mothers off or those on benefits but this girl had me furious. She sits all around and does nothing for most of the week - what is so different between cleaning cash in hand and cleaning as a job??? If she can do that, she can get a proper job.
Is putting a baby in childcare damaging to them in later life? Has anyone experienced this with their own child, or know of anyone who believes this to be true?
She causes murders for all the neighbours by doing sly things.. trampled on one guys allotments, rings the police to report trivia and shouts at anyone who dares tell her that her alarm has been going off all day.. etc. she is just a spiteful girl.
She said to me, why are you having twins? (She is big time jealous that I have a baby as she wants one so bad, she and her 9 year old often talk about how 'mummy can have a baby'). I said that I didn't ask for twins, and was quite shocked at her comment. She said to me, but you don't look after the one you've got. I explained that I work and Cadence is in childcare - which she knows. She said I may aswell not have them because I wont look after them and asked me if it bothers me that my daughters childminder takes her to baby groups etc etc. She was quite nasty. She told me she is a 'full time mummy' and she was there with her daughter for everything and blah de blah de blah.
She was really insulting and in the end I said to her.
Well, we both work hard and save money for Cadence and I want Cadence to know that when she grows up, the right thing to do is have a job and not get pregnant and live on benefits all her life. I told her that her daughter has behavioural diffculties because she herself is entirely innapropriate with her conversation around her child and that she is ridiculous for calling herself a 'full time mum' when her child is in school all day. I asked her why doesn't she get a job whilst her daughter is in school. She said it wouldn't be worth it!!!!
Her child is like the adult. Her mum keeps her off school for any reason and shouts and bawls at her.
Now, don't get me wrong , I am not slagging single mothers off or those on benefits but this girl had me furious. She sits all around and does nothing for most of the week - what is so different between cleaning cash in hand and cleaning as a job??? If she can do that, she can get a proper job.
Is putting a baby in childcare damaging to them in later life? Has anyone experienced this with their own child, or know of anyone who believes this to be true?