I really want to become a nail tech and at the moment I'm saving for CND complete (not too much further to go!). I made the mistake of telling my father recently. I've seen him once since, both times it as ended with me in tears and a screaming match. Some of what he has said has sunk in though and doubts are creeping in.
He's basically saying everyone's struggling at the moment, I'll never get enough clients and make enough money to ever be able to afford to buy and run my own house with my partner. His step niece did beauty therapy and couldn't get any work, so he's using that as evidence. When I mentioned if I had trouble building a client base then I'd try salon work, he told me I didn't "look the part" and wasn't attractive enough to be hired as I "don't fit the image people want to project".
I currently live in social housing, so obviously it's low rent. My partner doesn't have a huge salary. We want to move to Somerset (where he's originally from) and buy a house at some point within the next couple of years. My dad is pretty much holding my trust over my head and saying I won't get it (I wanted it towards a deposit on a house), unless I can prove I have an income high enough to support being a home owner.
His suggestion was to become a freelance journalist. I find that odd, as there's no "wage" so to speak and in all honesty, I have zero interest in it. He's annoyed I never went to university and didn't train as a psychologist or Doctor, as I did have the brains for it, though again- no interest and I didn't fancy being in full time study for 6 years plus. Normally I just try to block out everything he says, as it's generally quite detrimental, but he has a point. What if I can't make enough money and get enough clients? My partner has said I wont know 'till I try and if I can't make an income from it then I can just think of it as spending money on some excellent training to become more proficient in my passion. I am still freaking out though and have a million different doubts in my head. I worry even if I do get enough clients, what would I do for childcare (when I have children)? I have no one, outside my partner, that I can rely on.
I'm just feeling so rubbish
I was so happy when I made the decision to train and now I just don't know what I should do. All of this sounds like some confused teenager, but I'm 30! I don't know if I should have posted this in Chit-Chat, but I wanted some advice from those of you who have been there, or are newly starting out.
Am I making a mistake? Am I going to end up penniless? I don't want to do it solely for the money, but obviously I need to be able to contribute to the household income. He also pointed out, if I did build up a client base here, obviously when I move I'd have to start again from scratch.
Another thing he said was, that people will ask me how long I've been in the business and if I'm honest and say 6 months or I'm newly qualified, then nobody would be interested. He said no matter how good a job I might do, there'd always be someone doing it for cheaper and for longer.
Does anyone have any advice?
He's basically saying everyone's struggling at the moment, I'll never get enough clients and make enough money to ever be able to afford to buy and run my own house with my partner. His step niece did beauty therapy and couldn't get any work, so he's using that as evidence. When I mentioned if I had trouble building a client base then I'd try salon work, he told me I didn't "look the part" and wasn't attractive enough to be hired as I "don't fit the image people want to project".
I currently live in social housing, so obviously it's low rent. My partner doesn't have a huge salary. We want to move to Somerset (where he's originally from) and buy a house at some point within the next couple of years. My dad is pretty much holding my trust over my head and saying I won't get it (I wanted it towards a deposit on a house), unless I can prove I have an income high enough to support being a home owner.
His suggestion was to become a freelance journalist. I find that odd, as there's no "wage" so to speak and in all honesty, I have zero interest in it. He's annoyed I never went to university and didn't train as a psychologist or Doctor, as I did have the brains for it, though again- no interest and I didn't fancy being in full time study for 6 years plus. Normally I just try to block out everything he says, as it's generally quite detrimental, but he has a point. What if I can't make enough money and get enough clients? My partner has said I wont know 'till I try and if I can't make an income from it then I can just think of it as spending money on some excellent training to become more proficient in my passion. I am still freaking out though and have a million different doubts in my head. I worry even if I do get enough clients, what would I do for childcare (when I have children)? I have no one, outside my partner, that I can rely on.
I'm just feeling so rubbish
I was so happy when I made the decision to train and now I just don't know what I should do. All of this sounds like some confused teenager, but I'm 30! I don't know if I should have posted this in Chit-Chat, but I wanted some advice from those of you who have been there, or are newly starting out. Am I making a mistake? Am I going to end up penniless? I don't want to do it solely for the money, but obviously I need to be able to contribute to the household income. He also pointed out, if I did build up a client base here, obviously when I move I'd have to start again from scratch.
Another thing he said was, that people will ask me how long I've been in the business and if I'm honest and say 6 months or I'm newly qualified, then nobody would be interested. He said no matter how good a job I might do, there'd always be someone doing it for cheaper and for longer.
Does anyone have any advice?
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