- after a certain age HE is responsible for his actions - NOT YOU and yes - feel angry with him, but please G don't beat yourself up about it all!
I said more or less the same thing.
He is a grown man...HE makes his own choices, He choose to do all the wrong things he has done..and nothing anyone can say or do will stop him...if this is how he chooses to live his life.
Sometimes the way you are brought up has nothing to do with it....
When I was a baby I went to live with my nanna..I was about 6 weeks old.
I stayed with her until I was 4 years old.
The manners she and my grandad taught me..stayed with me for life.
Once I went back to my mum..she loved me yeah..but i wasnt brought up to have many rules etc...she allowed me to smoke at 13...and do other things I wont talk about.
I could have gone totally off the rails had I wanted to..she wouldnt have tried to stop me i doubt..
But I didnt ..i had my daughter at 16 and am the person I am today.....because that IS WHAT I CHOSE to do...
He has chose this path...and Glynis I understand so much..why you are so angry with him..
Now not everyone will agree with this..
In a ideal world it would be fantastic if he changed his ways....and you could forgive and all live happily ever after....
But its not an ideal world is it....and I for one fully support you if you never forgive him again for the things he has said and done,
sorry I waffled on again :o