Really scared of giving birth HELP!!

[princesslilyxx]

Hello geeks!

Well........here I am sitting waiting for baby to arrive! Well my due date it the 8th July which is like a few hours away! lol I have been so worried tonight and really, really scared of giving birth. Its my first so I don't know what to expect.

I know it can't be that bad because women would have stopped having children a long time ago! lol. I am just pooing myself thinking what is going to happen! I am nearly in tears thinking about it, am I being strange???

Any advice would be great, I know all women experience things different in labour! I know my pain threshold isn't that good as well! All this is making me so anxious!

Thanks for listening x x x x

 

[ValencianNails]

Lily sweetheart, you need to stop getting yourself stressed out by it as it will affect baby, try to keep calm, you could go for another 2 weeks yet.
You're just nervous mate, it's completely normal to feel like this, fear of the unknown etc. You're right, if it were that bad then nobody would have more than one child, please try not to worry about it.
Take whatever pain relief they offer you, you might not need it and have an easy birth, gas and air is good pain relief, pethidine is also very good, depending on how far dilated you are will make the difference as to what they offer you, the midwife will talk you through it, telling you when to push, how to breathe etc, they're there to help you and to make it as easy as possible.
Take care :hug: xxx

 

[estherlou]

Hello geeks!

Well........here I am sitting waiting for baby to arrive! Well my due date it the 8th July which is like a few hours away! lol I have been so worried tonight and really, really scared of giving birth. Its my first so I don't know what to expect.

I know it can't be that bad because women would have stopped having children a long time ago! lol.
Its not hun, does hurt a bit but you forget as soon as you get your baby in your arms!

I am just pooing myself thinking what is going to happen! I am nearly in tears thinking about it, am I being strange???
Not strange just hormonal

Any advice would be great, I know all women experience things different in labour! I know my pain threshold isn't that good as well! All this is making me so anxious!
Stay as calm as you can, i know that sounds silly but it does help, get someone to give you a nice foot massage with some warm oil or put on a slushy movie, anything to take your mind off it, baby will come when he/she is ready so rest as much as you can hun hth xxx

Thanks for listening x x x x

Been there i know what its like hun, i've had three so it wasn't bad enough to put me off! xxx

 

[ladybgemini]

Dont be worried hun, it's a magical experience, yes it hurts but thats what the pain relief is for.

After it's all over you will wonder why you was scared hun. Listen to your body, it will guide you.

I really wish it was me hun, mine is 3 a week on monday and I would love to do it all over again so, you see, it cant be that bad now can it???

I'm on MSN with emma n karen, if you want any advice then we are here


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[Susie H]

Hi hun, I think if any woman says she never had a moment when she panicked about the birth, then she's lying I've had 3 and helped raise another and each time I said the same thing, its not so bad because you know it wont last for ever. For me the first bit was the worst, all that breathing while you wait for your cervex to open but once they said PUSH:lol: for me that was MY moment, finally able to do something to help things along and knowing that my baby was going to be in my arms so soon was the best:lol: and the moment you look into your baby's eyes for the first time, well its stays with you for ever, thats when you know that magic is real:hug:
I cant wait to see your baby photo's, you'll be fine luv, all us mums are right here with you:hug:

 

[princesslilyxx]

Thank you so much for all your replies! It had made me feel loads better! I guess I just have to stay calm and when he is ready he will enter the world! lol Its all so scary to think that in the next few weeks I will actually be a mummy and life will be so different!!

 

[*JOANNE*]

i have had 3 and each time before the birth i used to have bouts of crying because i was scared even over my third pregnancy and remeber crying to my husband that i couldnt do the birth thing , its perfectly normal...but.....trust me, when you actually go into labour its very different as in the panic and scared feelings go and you become calmer than those around you...you really do.....its quite bizzare how "mother nature" works. you will find when you actually start off you just go with it, any fears just go away and you cope minute by minute.
in a funny kind of way you sit there and think " i think i am labour" and you dont panic you just go with the flow.
you will be totally fine...dont think to far forward, dont count out anything just take each step at a time and if things get a bit unbearable then do what you have to .......labour and birth is quite a surreal thing you go inside your self and dont notice things that are going on around you...its quite special between your personal self.
trust me once labour begins you will be shocked how "together" you will be and how calm you are about it when it begins.
:hug::hug:

 

[sas21]

Oh mate, I know how you feel!

My little boy is 3 now but I remember it all like it was yesterday.

I felt the same way - I remember being at my mums and just started crying my eyes out - I was so scared! lol

I am the biggest wuss going, but it wasn't at all as bad as I thougth it would be - I actually quite enjoyed it!

It is such a special thing and I kind of went on autopilot and just went with it and focussed on having my little baby at the end of it.

I was petrified in the run up to the birth - he was 14 days overdue aswell, so I spent those two weeks scaring the life out of myself knowing that it could happen any minute - I wouldnt go out of the house incase my waters broke! lol

You will be fine once things start - I think it is instinct or something that takes hold of you and get you through it.

My labour was quite long and my boy was quite big - if someone had told me how long it would be and how big he would be, I think I would have passed out! lol

But like I say, you go on auto pilot and something inside you clicks into action. In my opinion, the first part is the worst, when you first start getting contractions, but after a while you sort of adjust to it, because its then that you know you will have that little baby in your arms very soon

I know this has been a long one but I really feel for ya hun as I know how scared I was lol.

But it really isnt that bad:hug:

Feel free to pm me at any time if you want :hug:

Good luck - shouldn't be long now! Think of the end result!

Sarah
xx
:hug::hug:

 

[user 17140]

You will be fine, ive had two natural one caesarean, the excitment and pride out ways the pain!:hug:

 

[looby lou]

Lily sweetheart, you need to stop getting yourself stressed out by it as it will affect baby, try to keep calm, you could go for another 2 weeks yet.
You're just nervous mate, it's completely normal to feel like this, fear of the unknown etc. You're right, if it were that bad then nobody would have more than one child, please try not to worry about it.
Take whatever pain relief they offer you, you might not need it and have an easy birth, gas and air is good pain relief, pethidine is also very good, depending on how far dilated you are will make the difference as to what they offer you, the midwife will talk you through it, telling you when to push, how to breathe etc, they're there to help you and to make it as easy as possible.
Take care :hug: xxx

Please take note of ALL this advice, Sandy is right!! No-one can tell you how it's going to be, we all have different experiences. It's soooooo worth it when you hold your baby for the first time xxxx

 

[cabinkel]

Good luck Lily. Stay calm and remember that you have pain releif at your disposal!! I know it sounds weird but your body really will kind of know what its doing. I remember with mine being so scared I asked the midwife if I could be put out for the birth and woke up when it was all over, and I was VERY serious! lol
When I went into labour I really did come over all calm, and in a strange way felt quite in control. Just relax about it all, (if you can) and look forward to meeting your baby for the first time! :hug::hug:

 

[VillageNails]

i planned to walk in backwards for my first labour('GET THE EPIDURAL IN FAST!!!') but i spoke to so many pregnant people who wanted a natural birth no pain control - so i felt like a wuss. well what is natural about having a very sore/painful back butt nether regions etc and refusing analgesia!!It does hurt like hell - but it is less than a day of your whole life and what a magical present you get at the end for being such a brave girl!!
LISTEN to your body, YOU know how you feel and don't let anyone make you feel uneasy or guilty.
Everyone is so different and even my two have been different (38 weeks - 12 hours epidural; 42 weeks - 6 hours gas and air)
relax and have a rest while you wait and don't get yourself in a stew - your fears are normal and you WILL cope.
good luck:hug:

 

[hayls]

The only advice I can give is when you go into labour be calm and breath.
You could opt for a water birth, amazing thing water all the pain dissapears!!

But this I can tell you, once the labour was over the pain I forgot, so I went on to have another child!

While your in labour, it feels like the worst thing in the world, but once its over its a piece of cake (for most women!)

You'll ace it and think at the end you'll have a tiny bundle of joy to stare at all day long!! xxxx

 

[gillian w]

Its a funny thing childbirth your body just kicks in to do its job..yes you will go through pain but you will cope,you wont remember that pain and you will be willing to do it again.Thats the way it is.Just know that YOU WILL be able to cope with whatever you need to, to bring your baby into the world.

 

[MINKUS]

best of luck:hug::hug::hug::hug:i remember when you first found out !

Keep calm, stay strong and ENJOY !:hug::hug::hug:

amb x

 

[dee]

oh hun you will be fine , i can remember going 2 wks over and getting told i had to go in for inducing , and i swear if i could have run away from it i would have :lol:i was so scared , but your body takes over and you will cope :hug:
good luck chick and just think when you have got baby in your arms awwww i am all broody now ,. lol xxx

 

[princesslilyxx]

Thanks girls! Oh god today was my due date! lol No signs yet. Been thinking alot!!! Can happen any day now I guess! So fingers crossed I'll be ok! I am such a wuss u know! lol x

 

[pennijar]

Try not to stress about the labour, just think that in a few hours from it starting you will be holding a new life in your arms, a life that you and Darren made out of love, then you will forget all about the labour and you will look forward to a whole new future together with your new little angel.

Joan

 

[leah82]

Hi ya hun, wishing you all the best! I'm sure you'll be fine you tend to just go with the flow trust me!! Don't panic, sending you huge hugs!!! :hug: :hug: But make sure you do what you want to do don't be pressured by the midwives eg: how to lie, what you should have etc.... as I learnt from that first time round, so second time was much better!!

 

[chantell simone]

don't stress

you will be fine

labour hurts lie hell but when you hold your beautiful baby for the first time,it makes it all worth it

good luck