eternalscot
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Good thread, I know someone like this.
Could it be that he has an addiction to porn sites? You mentioned that he told you "he is having fun time alone" maybe that is enough for him? Porn addiction can have an extreme impact on a relationship.
I am really sorry I don't mean to hurt you but it is unacceptable the way he is behaving. I really hope you manage to sort it out together and good luck tonight.
He used to dj, go out with his mates and stuff but nothing like that now. He's just found out his mums cancer has spread, so I'm finding it 1000x worse to talk about our problems because it's not the biggest problem right now!!
I was imagining how life would be without him tonight and it seems more bearable than I've ever realised. I'm so unsure what to do. I don't feel like I can talk about it but I can't leave him either, I'd have to be superbitch to leave him at this moment in time!!
I think he does have depression, my dad suffers from this and I know my mum used to feel utter frustration etc before he got help.
Uhhhh. This is horrendous! Part of me wants to leave and have fun being a 19yr old, but the other part of me knows I crave security and utterly hate the 'one night stand, nightclubby young person scene' and I'd lose my two cats and have to move back in with my parents, and lose my beauty room.
I can't imagine things getting better, but then I'm not trying particularly hard.
cxx
He used to dj, go out with his mates and stuff but nothing like that now. He's just found out his mums cancer has spread, so I'm finding it 1000x worse to talk about our problems because it's not the biggest problem right now!!
I was imagining how life would be without him tonight and it seems more bearable than I've ever realised. I'm so unsure what to do. I don't feel like I can talk about it but I can't leave him either, I'd have to be superbitch to leave him at this moment in time!!
I think he does have depression, my dad suffers from this and I know my mum used to feel utter frustration etc before he got help.
Uhhhh. This is horrendous! Part of me wants to leave and have fun being a 19yr old, but the other part of me knows I crave security and utterly hate the 'one night stand, nightclubby young person scene' and I'd lose my two cats and have to move back in with my parents, and lose my beauty room.
I can't imagine things getting better, but then I'm not trying particularly hard.
cxx
We spoke last night and have decided we are going to a therapist, woohoo!
We have love and trust, two of the most important things. Surely this is a good foundation for us to rebuild on?
We decided if therapy doesn't work, we will part ways. I'm so glad he feels the same as me despite his mum etc. I feel as if we are on the same page now and hopefully therapy will help but if not, at least I know I'm not being the baddie as we both feel the same.
xxx
Oooh his mother hey? She doesnt think he needs help? Blahh I got a mother in law like that blahhh. I deffs feel sensitive to your situation. Just remeber it really takes 2 to make a relationship work. Therapy is just a tool not a quick fix. One session isnt just gonna explain your issues away it can be such a llooonnngg prosess! Good luck sugar xo
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