PixieBeauty
Well-Known Member
Hi all, hope nobody minds me posting this but it's something that comes up occasionally in chit-chat posts about relationships.
I'm asking a totally HYPOTHETICAL question here, but from someone who has been cheated on, I'd like to hear general opinions.
I always used to think I'd forgive a cheater. Definitely. Because for one person to have cheated there's something that's gone wrong in the relationship, it takes two people to work at it etc.
So I was cheated on...and I forgave him. Of course we had things to work on etc....a couple of years passed and he did it again. I ignored all my friends first time who said once a cheater, always a cheater. I figure we can all screw up from time to time.
So the second time round we called it a day. Within weeks I met the guy I'm with now, and frankly this is how it should be. 18 months in and it occurred to me the other day, why on EARTH did I think I deserved anything less than being with a guy that wouldn't cheat on me?? I couldn't quite believe what I'd thought I was supposed to put up with & forgive.
So, bit of my perspective there but hypothetically - would you forgive a partner that cheated on you?? Xx
I'm asking a totally HYPOTHETICAL question here, but from someone who has been cheated on, I'd like to hear general opinions.
I always used to think I'd forgive a cheater. Definitely. Because for one person to have cheated there's something that's gone wrong in the relationship, it takes two people to work at it etc.
So I was cheated on...and I forgave him. Of course we had things to work on etc....a couple of years passed and he did it again. I ignored all my friends first time who said once a cheater, always a cheater. I figure we can all screw up from time to time.
So the second time round we called it a day. Within weeks I met the guy I'm with now, and frankly this is how it should be. 18 months in and it occurred to me the other day, why on EARTH did I think I deserved anything less than being with a guy that wouldn't cheat on me?? I couldn't quite believe what I'd thought I was supposed to put up with & forgive.
So, bit of my perspective there but hypothetically - would you forgive a partner that cheated on you?? Xx