caz3
Well-Known Member
:sad: What should I do about my Daughter?
It was 4.5 years ago now when she went to work and never came back! The next thing I knew her Father was on the phone to me saying that she wanted to live with him. This is man that had never financially supported my 2 children with him and had not seem them for 3 years. She had phoned him up out of the blue and told him she wanted to go and live with him so he drove down and picked her up from the pub where she worked and took her to his house 1.5 hours away and left me not knowing where she was until he phoned me at 8am the next morning.
He told me to pack her bedroom and that he would bring her back the following friday night which was 5 days time and she would pick her stuff up. He told me that it would be a quick visit as he had to work. So I had all her bedroom packed and she came in the house with flowers for me (the first and last time she had bought me flowers) and sweets for the kids. I asked her why she was doing this and she just said well we do not get on do we Mum!!!! Ok yes we had our arguements but we also had some great times. She was an 18 year old girl a teenager they are hard work I had a husband that lived away all week and I saw him 2 weekends a month life was not easy for me. We had bought a house in Norfolk as she did not want to move and leave her friends so we thought it would be better to stay put and let her have a life and my hubby moved on with the Army.
She has now been gone 4.5 years and I have only seen her once for 10 mins this is when we were on our way home from a holiday and I had just had Ty my baby boy her Brother so we text her and asked her to meet us at Tescos near to where she was living with her father which she did but that is that.
Her father my X has phoned me up and told me how out of order I was letting his daughters call my new husband Dad, my husband now bought up these girls from when they were 5 years and 1 years they never went without always had and he loves them as much as the 3 kids we have together. My X told me that my husband was nothing to do with the girls this makes me mad as at the end of the day it is my husband now that bought them up. My X told me it must only bge Norfolk people that allow this to happen I am not even from Norfolk I am from Essex does this not just show how mad this man is?
I got a crad from her today with some gifts for Christmas for the kids and on the card she writes Martin not Dad this hurts me so much so god knows what my hubby must feel, but then he is a good man he has never said anything bad about her just walking out he has text her every mothers day, and on my Birthdays asking her to visit me but she has always said she was too busy.
I keep asking her to see me but she said when I stop nagging she will maybe visit so I have gone a whole 12 months without asking her and I have not heard from her so even me keeping out of her life has not worked.
She is 22 years of age now she has a 3 sisters and a brother at home with me, her 18 year old sister has the same father as her my X, but she has not kept in contact with her. My 18 year old text her and asked if she could visit but my daughter turned around and said no she would rather see us all together this was over 12 months ago now. I text her and asked her why her sister could not visit she said that I only want her to go so she can come home and tell me what she is doing!!!!!! I can not win.
When she left I had never taken any board off her we were waiting for her to finish collage where we had just paid over a £1,000 for her to train hair, beauty, and bus fees for 2 years. Her evening and weekends job was giving her over £140 a week but we took nothing off her. The day she left her father told me she would have to get a job as he wanted £100 a month off her which she got a job and started to pay him board.
Every year since she has been gone she has had birthday, Christmas, and Easter gifts off us. This year I have bought post office stamps to pay for her next car tax but am I silly?
This is the first time I have managed to talk about this I have cried all the way through typing it, some may read it thinking I must be a really evil Mum for my daughter to want to walk out my life but this is not the case my life is my children.
I am sure my X has poisoned her mind I left him as he had many affairs and I ended up not loving him anymore and he knows the only way to hurt me is to take my kids. He has not once been to see his other daughter my 18 year old does this not say anything why does he not pick her up and take her to see her sister?
I think my daughter had other issues in the town with boyfriends this is why she went but she seems to want to blame me. She told me that I called her a Bitch ounce when I was shouting at her maybe I did but do I disserve this? She has no contact with any of my family and it was my Dad that helped me out with shoes and coats when I left her father as we had no money.
I will go now do something with my red eyes as I have to do the school run sorry to go on.
Caz xxx
It was 4.5 years ago now when she went to work and never came back! The next thing I knew her Father was on the phone to me saying that she wanted to live with him. This is man that had never financially supported my 2 children with him and had not seem them for 3 years. She had phoned him up out of the blue and told him she wanted to go and live with him so he drove down and picked her up from the pub where she worked and took her to his house 1.5 hours away and left me not knowing where she was until he phoned me at 8am the next morning.
He told me to pack her bedroom and that he would bring her back the following friday night which was 5 days time and she would pick her stuff up. He told me that it would be a quick visit as he had to work. So I had all her bedroom packed and she came in the house with flowers for me (the first and last time she had bought me flowers) and sweets for the kids. I asked her why she was doing this and she just said well we do not get on do we Mum!!!! Ok yes we had our arguements but we also had some great times. She was an 18 year old girl a teenager they are hard work I had a husband that lived away all week and I saw him 2 weekends a month life was not easy for me. We had bought a house in Norfolk as she did not want to move and leave her friends so we thought it would be better to stay put and let her have a life and my hubby moved on with the Army.
She has now been gone 4.5 years and I have only seen her once for 10 mins this is when we were on our way home from a holiday and I had just had Ty my baby boy her Brother so we text her and asked her to meet us at Tescos near to where she was living with her father which she did but that is that.
Her father my X has phoned me up and told me how out of order I was letting his daughters call my new husband Dad, my husband now bought up these girls from when they were 5 years and 1 years they never went without always had and he loves them as much as the 3 kids we have together. My X told me that my husband was nothing to do with the girls this makes me mad as at the end of the day it is my husband now that bought them up. My X told me it must only bge Norfolk people that allow this to happen I am not even from Norfolk I am from Essex does this not just show how mad this man is?
I got a crad from her today with some gifts for Christmas for the kids and on the card she writes Martin not Dad this hurts me so much so god knows what my hubby must feel, but then he is a good man he has never said anything bad about her just walking out he has text her every mothers day, and on my Birthdays asking her to visit me but she has always said she was too busy.
I keep asking her to see me but she said when I stop nagging she will maybe visit so I have gone a whole 12 months without asking her and I have not heard from her so even me keeping out of her life has not worked.
She is 22 years of age now she has a 3 sisters and a brother at home with me, her 18 year old sister has the same father as her my X, but she has not kept in contact with her. My 18 year old text her and asked if she could visit but my daughter turned around and said no she would rather see us all together this was over 12 months ago now. I text her and asked her why her sister could not visit she said that I only want her to go so she can come home and tell me what she is doing!!!!!! I can not win.
When she left I had never taken any board off her we were waiting for her to finish collage where we had just paid over a £1,000 for her to train hair, beauty, and bus fees for 2 years. Her evening and weekends job was giving her over £140 a week but we took nothing off her. The day she left her father told me she would have to get a job as he wanted £100 a month off her which she got a job and started to pay him board.
Every year since she has been gone she has had birthday, Christmas, and Easter gifts off us. This year I have bought post office stamps to pay for her next car tax but am I silly?
This is the first time I have managed to talk about this I have cried all the way through typing it, some may read it thinking I must be a really evil Mum for my daughter to want to walk out my life but this is not the case my life is my children.
I am sure my X has poisoned her mind I left him as he had many affairs and I ended up not loving him anymore and he knows the only way to hurt me is to take my kids. He has not once been to see his other daughter my 18 year old does this not say anything why does he not pick her up and take her to see her sister?
I think my daughter had other issues in the town with boyfriends this is why she went but she seems to want to blame me. She told me that I called her a Bitch ounce when I was shouting at her maybe I did but do I disserve this? She has no contact with any of my family and it was my Dad that helped me out with shoes and coats when I left her father as we had no money.
I will go now do something with my red eyes as I have to do the school run sorry to go on.
Caz xxx