Hausofhana
Well-Known Member
Okay, this is really hard for me but here goes...
Me and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half after meeting through a mutual friend. I fell so hard for him because he was so cool, own house, car and he's a gorgeous dj. I couldn't believe someone so perfect would like someone like me!!
When we first stated being intimate, I would notice he would sometimes be unable to 'perform' as it were. But we kept trying and had a good routine for a few months. But then it changed. Since about last August, il be lucky if I get it once a month.
To begin with, I would try hard to get him interested, and the constant rejection made me feel worse than ever, as I've never had this problem before with men. It would be 'I'm tired' or 'I'm not in the mood' and when I tried to dress sexy he smiled at me and continued to watch the tv. It made me HATE myself, I was so embarrassed.
Since that I've stopped trying, purely because I'm far too sensitive to take constant rejection. I know he has a drive as I've seen his Internet history and he does occasionally view porn and that... So is it just me???
He is affectionate and tells me he loves me but NO SEX. It never really bothered me until recently as I think to myself why do I put up with it when there are so many men who would step over their mothers for a night with me? (lol) We live together and my life would be very difficult if we were to break up.
I'm not sure if its worth it if this is gonna be what its like for the rest of the relationship. We can't talk because he gets embarrassed, says he will change but doesn't. I feel defeated, unwanted and unattractive.
Please give me your advice girls, I have noone to talk to about it and I hope some of you lovely ladies can give me your view on the matter.
Thanks c
Me and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half after meeting through a mutual friend. I fell so hard for him because he was so cool, own house, car and he's a gorgeous dj. I couldn't believe someone so perfect would like someone like me!!
When we first stated being intimate, I would notice he would sometimes be unable to 'perform' as it were. But we kept trying and had a good routine for a few months. But then it changed. Since about last August, il be lucky if I get it once a month.
To begin with, I would try hard to get him interested, and the constant rejection made me feel worse than ever, as I've never had this problem before with men. It would be 'I'm tired' or 'I'm not in the mood' and when I tried to dress sexy he smiled at me and continued to watch the tv. It made me HATE myself, I was so embarrassed.
Since that I've stopped trying, purely because I'm far too sensitive to take constant rejection. I know he has a drive as I've seen his Internet history and he does occasionally view porn and that... So is it just me???
He is affectionate and tells me he loves me but NO SEX. It never really bothered me until recently as I think to myself why do I put up with it when there are so many men who would step over their mothers for a night with me? (lol) We live together and my life would be very difficult if we were to break up.
I'm not sure if its worth it if this is gonna be what its like for the rest of the relationship. We can't talk because he gets embarrassed, says he will change but doesn't. I feel defeated, unwanted and unattractive.
Please give me your advice girls, I have noone to talk to about it and I hope some of you lovely ladies can give me your view on the matter.
Thanks c