Should I tell her why I'm quitting?

[honeycure]

I had been working at a salon for about a year. The pay was less than great and it was stressful to be there, but I learned a lot.

The other day when I was shopping, I was stopped by a salon owner and offered a job when she saw my nails. She will be opening a new nail salon as an addition to her hair salon in downtown, and wants me to work for her. I already said yes, so I'll be meeting up with her for the next month to help out with the salon set up.

However, I haven't told my current boss yet.
I'm quitting for sure, but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say because she definitely will ask why I'm quitting. Honestly, I'd love to tell her that her pay sucks, she didn't live up to any of the things she promised when she first hired me, she takes my work for granted, and acts very unprofessional... but that would be burning bridges. I thought of just telling her I'm gonna be busy with school (which I will be), but I know word will get around that I'm working elsewhere so that would be lying.

I don't wanna leave on bad terms, but how do I tell a moody boss that I'm quitting to work for someone else without having her become upset?

 

[Gigit]

Word to the wise when it comes to professional relationships, keep it professional and never personal.

You do not owe an explanation, nor would I provide one... period. Give her your notice in advance (in Canada it's a customary 2 weeks notice before leaving - in writing) and be very professional about it - you never know when your resume and references might come back to haunt you should you handle it differently.

 

[geeg]

Why don't you just tell her the truth ?? It's simple enough. You've been offered a better opportunity and you have decided to take it. These things are never comfortable to do but if you keep it professional and not allow anything to get personal then I'm sure you will pull it off.

Do everything right ... work off your time, don't solicit clients from your bosses salon and leave the door OPEN. No one can blame you for wanting to better your position even though your boss will undoubtedly be disappointed.

Good Luck.

 

[eden_beauty]

Quite frankly you can't! - if she's moody in general then shes bound to be upset by you quitting, nevertheless that said you owe it to yourself to be happy in whatever job you have so if you believe you will be happy elsewhere just tell her that. say something like " I appreciate everything i have learned here so i thank you for that but i think its time for a new challange in my career and i have been offered a job elsewhere that i have accepted" if she goes on and on moaning after this then just explain politely that promises made by her at the start of your employment have not been kept and you feel undervalued in the position you have at her salon and so you are moving on.

Don't labour the point and make sure she knows you won't be changing your mind but again as i said do it in a manner that she doesn't make your notice period HELL : )

 

[vikkicnd]

Be honest, at least then nothing can come back to haunt you in the future. mayble she will apreciate the honesty and think about the way she treats her next nail tech. I would definately try and leave on good terms because the grass isn't always greener. Good luck with the new job xx

 

[NoLimitNails]

I have worked for someone as you describe (well worse).

It didn't end well, but I have chosen to keep my mouth shut about it, also to other people, the boss on the other hand hasn't, but as long as I don't badmouth I hope people can think and judge for themselves. I had a very rough time with violent threats etc and almost gave up nails.

So my advice is as already said, do anything professionally, don't steal clients (I have chosen not to work in the same city at all because I wanted to make sure nobody could say anything) Tell the truth (not that she's moody etc) tell her that you are offered an opportunity with better money, and thats it.

I hope it'll work out for you:hug:

 

[BeautyAcademy]

Keep it totally professional. It will make YOUR life much easier in the long run. I would even write a nice letter thanking her for giving you the opportunity (even if you don`t mean it!!)
The competition between beauty salons in our Towns can prove quite difficult at times, if you don`t get on with one another! If you leave professionally, she cannot think poorly of you. I would be careful what you say to other clients too; it`s amazing what can often go back to the old boss! Don`t trust anyone, just keep it to yourself! You will come out trumps; you`ll see! Good Luck x

 

[PeepPaws]

I have just had to do this myself!
I found a new room to rent in a busier area and had to tell the 'old' salon owner that i would not be returning after Christmas. I told her it was for the benefit of my business and nothing personal. (She tried to turn it that way). I told her I had become stagnant where I was and needed to expand, it was nothing to do with her. I went on to thank her for the opportunity she had allowed me by renting space.
We left on professional terms and no nastiness.
I even gave her some flowers as a leaving gift!
All went well,you just have to tell her. And remember, don;t over talk!!! to fill in any uncomfortable gaps. This is where people loose the professionalism.
Good Luck xxx

 

[shedunlop]

The truth is always the way to go. Depends how blunt you want to be but telling her you have been offered a better position is nothing she can be reasonably upset by. She doesn't sound reasonable anyway so it may be that it wouldn't matter what you tell her, she will probably be upset anyway.

 

[geeg]

Look .. no one wants to loose a good colleague no matter what the reason. Whatever the poster thinks of her colleague, she admits she has learned allot; which is everything even if it means she now knows what not to do if ever she herself is an owner.

Tell the truth without the negative stuff. You have every right to move on.

I have had many working in my salon. Some moved on. Sometimes it hurt, but not for long. Some left with dignity and some did not. Be one of the ones who does it right.

 

[persianista]

I think it's understandable for someone to leave for a bigger, better opportunity than the current salon can give. I agree that you should keep it nice. Many salon owners know each other and talk. A bad reputation can really hinder your career.

 

[Jessicles]

Everybody is right..take the high road and be the bigger person. You will gain much more respect. I went through the same thing. Be professional...hand her your written letter of resignation, thank her for employment and the opportunity to learn, but you've been given an offer you cannot refuse. You do not owe her any details. If she wants you to put in your two weeks, just come to work, do your job and go home. If she decides to badmouth you, she will look like the idiot. Let her. If she's that bad, she probably already has a reputation and you won't need to say anything. Good luck!

 

[honeycure]

Thanks so much for the wonderful replies everyone
I've decided to just be honest and professional with her.

I was hesitant to do so because I've seen the way she has badmouthed her old employees that have quit in the past to me and her clients. I didn't want her to do that to me, but there's nothing I can do about that. All I can do is be the bigger person and do what I have to do to move on.

I'm just excited that I'll have more freedom in the new place

Once again, thankyou! <3

 

[geeg]

Thanks so much for the wonderful replies everyone
I've decided to just be honest and professional with her.

I was hesitant to do so because I've seen the way she has badmouthed her old employees that have quit in the past to me and her clients. I didn't want her to do that to me, but there's nothing I can do about that. All I can do is be the bigger person and do what I have to do to move on.

I'm just excited that I'll have more freedom in the new place

Once again, thankyou! <3

Just make sure you do and that you have everything 'cut and dried' with this new owner that you don't really know!! Sometimes the 'devil you know' and all that ... but I hope it is a good move for you and I wish you the best of luck.