Sorry to hear about that chuck.
I have psoriatic arthritis which is a type of rheumatiod arthritis. I'm 31 and I've been diagnosed for about 3 years although I started with the symptoms when I was 17. I have arthritis in my feet, knees, hips, base of spine, left wrist, right shoulder, and more worryingly it seems to be starting in my right hand (my nail brush hand!)
There are so many different types of arthritis, although my experience of arthritis is this: Some days you wouldnt know anything was wrong with me unless I told you, other days I can hardly walk or stand. There is absolutely no rhyme or reason behind why you are ok some days but not others, although two things that seem to aggravate it are damp weather and red meat. This week I am having a flare up which seems to be attacking the base of my spine this time. this means it's painful to do pretty much anything at the moment, and I couldnt go into the salon yesterday because of it. The good thing for me is that I'm self employed and I try to organise my appointments around times when I know I wont be well, eg medication days, mornings etc.
Arthritis (my type at least) has other effects that you may not realise. Arthritis is caused by a defect in your immune system which means your immune system attacks your joints. Also, it attacks the soft connective tissue, and other soft tissue such as lungs and eyes. Extreme fatigue is another side effect.
I take a combination of medication which includes painkillers, anti inflammatory tablets, inhalers (for the lung problems), but the main one is called Methotrexate. This drug actually slows down the progression of the disease.
I think the best advice I could give you now is to look on one of the arthritis websites (ARC and NRAC) and get some info, there are advice line numbers on there too. You need to get diagnosed to find out what type of arthritis you have, and dont be afraid to get pushy with the doctors because they can drag their heels.
I cant think of anything else to say at the moment without writing war and peace, but if there is anything else you would like to know, you are welcome to pm me
Best wishes,