I am very much pro choice. There is nothing more fierce or more passionate than a mothers love for her child which is why this debate always leads to very strong views from the pro life people. There are women all around the world struggling to conceive, but I dont see that as any justification to force a woman to give birth to a child she does not want to have, whatever the reason may be. I'm doing some work with Barnados at the moment and have seen what can happen to unwanted children, the abuse and neglect that some of them suffer is shocking. If we were to force women to have babies they didnt want the neglect and abuse statistics would go up, and no child should ever have to suffer that. I know some of you will say that the answer to this is to deal with the problem ie the abusive parent, not to abort the child, but the abuse cases that we know about are the tip of the iceberg, quite often families who abuse and neglect slip through the cracks because they dont register with health authorities or schools so the abuse doesnt get picked up on. Allowing a woman to abort a foetus with an under-developed nervous system is far preferable in my view.
We should never judge another woman or her reasons for wanting to abort; it is enough that that woman doesnt feel she can be a mother, and we should respect that. I do agree that I am uncomfortable with the 24 week abortion limit though I wouldnt see it reduced personally, I would prefer to see rules implemented so that abortions over say 16 weeks could only be done in very exceptional circumstances.
I had an abortion 8 years ago and I do not feel any sadness or regret about it. At the time I was a single mum living on the breadline, and another baby would have meant financial hardship for me, the new baby, and the child I already had. Incidentally, the child I already have was born to a rapist and I made the decision not to abort. It was the hardest thing I have ever done and the repercussions have been far reaching to say the least. Try explaining to a little girl why all her friends at school have a dad and she doesnt, and more to the point where her dad is now and why he is there, what did he do? My girl is 16 now and has counselling, so the ideal view of "a mothers love is enough" just isnt how it is in reality. When my daughter was 6 months old I fell into a very severe depression and my family had to care for my daughter, I rejected her and didnt want her and if it wasnt for my family I'm sure she would have been adopted, something I would have regretted for the rest of my life. I'm not saying women who are raped should have abortions, if they choose not to they should be supported, but all I'm saying is that its very easy for another person to judge if they havent been where you've been. It was after this first experience of deciding against abortion that I had the benefit of hindsight to be able to decide that an abortion was the better option the second time around.
One thing I dont like is the NHS support to an abortion. When I had mine I was told it would be several weeks before I could be seen so I paid privately, something I really couldnt afford at the time (I got a loan) but I couldnt go on with that pregnancy and feel the baby move then abort it. The NHS needs to do more to ensure that abortions are done quickly, as soon as the mother decides she wants one.
Sorry for the life story! :hug: