Would you help?

[marie111]

My son went out to work this morning at 6.30am as usual and was back in the house at 7.05am, he had fainted on his way to work, he was lying on the ground after he came round and a lady walked straight past him, OMG.
He's had bloods etc. taken today at the docs as apparently he's being feeling dizzy, faint for approx a month, so will have to wait and see what it is.
I was annoyed he never phoned me to pick him up but when he said a lady walked straight past him, I assume she thought he was a drunk or smackhead.
Would you or have you done this?
I think even if I thought they were drunk etc. I'd still have to ask from a distance if they were ok.

 

[louiser]

I hope he's okay hun xx

I would have checked he was okay, like you said from a distance, even if you phone the police/ambulance. I have often poked my nose in situations in the past, even when it all blows up in my face I would still do it all over again! I was late for work last year stopping to help all the people that had slipped in the snow on my way to work!

When my sister was younger she rode her (my!) bike into a lampost, she shattered her elbow and knocked herself out, she fell into the middle of a busy road. Her friend said that she saw the motorists just waiting to drive around her lying in the road, no-one stopped.

 

[nicky's nails]

My son went out to work this morning at 6.30am as usual and was back in the house at 7.05am, he had fainted on his way to work, he was lying on the ground after he came round and a lady walked straight past him, OMG.
He's had bloods etc. taken today at the docs as apparently he's being feeling dizzy, faint for approx a month, so will have to wait and see what it is.
I was annoyed he never phoned me to pick him up but when he said a lady walked straight past him, I assume she thought he was a drunk or smackhead.
Would you or have you done this?
I think even if I thought they were drunk etc. I'd still have to ask from a distance if they were ok.

firstly hunny, i do hope he's ok and they find out whats wrong with him

secondly i can see both sides of this story, me personally i wouldnt even hesitiate to get involved, thats juts the kind of person i am, however my i know people who wouldnt, because in this day and age, people will pull all kinds of tricks to mug,rob, or even worse, and yes it does happen, now unfortunatly that means that in lots of circumstances lots of people on their own, will not put themselves in a vunerable position and you cannot blame them.

i know of someone who stopped her car and went to help a lady lying on the ground, a man jumped her, robbed her bag, got her keys, started the car, woman jumped of the floor and they rode of in her car with her bag.purse, house keys the lot, i bet this lady would never stop to help anyone again!!

however i would like to think, that even if she didnt want to put herself at risk, she could of called the police/ambulance, or called at a shop or somewhere and asked for help? but then again she might have been one of these people who truly dont give a damn?

anyway as i said, hope he's ok hun xxxxx

 

[adelekeegan1]

I was once on the tube in London and on my way to work when the girl standing next to me fainted and fell to the floor. The tube was quite crowded but space miraculously appeared all round her as everyone tried to get out of the way.

I bent down and asked her if she was OK at the same time as a man, she came to shouting abuse and I stepped back in alarm. She became very violent and hit out at the man who had tried to help. She looked perfectly respectable, she wasn't obviously under the influence of drink or drugs.

I have to say I'd have to ask from a distance - you really don't know what you are dealing with.

I do hope your son is OK

 

[JackieMc]

Goodness Marie, I hope your son is ok? It's sad that in this day and age some people will just walk past, here in Dublin you see so many drunks & junkies out cold on the pavement it's a daily occurrence, although you can usually tell who's out cold from drink or drugs and who is genuinely ill. I have the habit of checking to see if the person is ok - once quite recently to my embarrassment. We were driving along a busy main road close to home when I noticed a man flat on the pavement and people just walking past him. I told Sean to stop the car and I ran back to the man asking if he was ok? Turns out he was fine and just had his arm down a bloody drain or something! :o

Last year I fell over while out walking the dogs, luckily Sean was with me but I hurt my ankle quite badly and had trouble even dragging myself out of the road. It was at night and a woman very kindly drove me back home but she did admit that she almost didn't stop when she saw me in the middle of the road because she thought I was drunk! The shame! I was so grateful to her though.

I've been verbally abused in the past for asking if people were ok so I must admit I am wary, but it certainly wouldn't have harmed for the woman to have a look from a distance to see if your son was ok. I hope it's nothing too serious.

Jackie
x

 

[Retired]

Crikey, Marie, what a shock. Do let us know how he gets on with his results. Guess that will be in about a week's time? Take care. Babs xx

 

[bubbabinks]

I would stop and check he was O.K.

When hubbie and I were shopping in Tescos, I noticed a member of staff start to look a bit funny and I said to hubbie hang about cos I think he's going down.
Everyone just stood there, hubbie looked awful cos he stepped over him to get to the customer services desk to get them to call for an ambulance cos by then he was having a fit.
People just carried on shopping but didn't go down that aisle.

I hope he's O.K and you get the results soon

 

[pinklinds]

Of course I'd like to say I'd help, but until I'm put in this situation I'll never know for sure. Unfortunately we are made to think there are risks associated with stopping to assist a seemingly helpless person. I watched a psychology programme once about this very thing, I think they call it "bystander syndrome" which loosley translates to everybody thinking somebody else will help. I hope he finds out what has caused it and gets some treatment. :hug: Linds x

 

[Susie H]

Sad world we live in but yes I would have shouted from a distance and even called for help from a distance but unfortunately unless it was a car crash or similar I would not approach, hope your son is ok hun:hug:

 

[Martigirl]

Sad world we live in but yes I would have shouted from a distance and even called for help from a distance but unfortunately unless it was a car crash or similar I would not approach, hope your son is ok hun:hug:

Glad your son got home ok and I hope he feels better soon:hug:

If I was on my own I would do exactly the same as Susie H.

On occasions when I have been alone I need to think of my own children first and foremost, that however doesn't mean I ignore the situation.

3 recent occasions a man slumped in a very dangerous dual carriageway. I stopped safely called the police and an ambulance from a safe distance (another man had stopped and was trying to wake the man up) my thoughts on this were if I stayed at a safe distance then I would at least be of some assistance to both of them should anything happen to the Good Samaritan.

Junkie out cold in the street other people present but no phones I called the ambulance and waited with them until they arrived. (later heard the no phone scenario is a ploy to get you distracted and steal your phone and bag Thankfully this was not the case.

Young lad walking down a busy dual carriageway at 10.40 AM Sunday morning, walking strangely as if he was disabled but he wasn't. I had my kids in the car so I drove to the nearest police station 2 minutes away and asked them to respond.

Prior to out addiction culture I would just have jumped in and did what I thought necessary SADLY or SENSIBLY since I have become a mum I think of my own safety at all times whilst still trying to help.

 

[JessieBee]

I'd like to think I'd stop and help but again until I'm put in that position I can't say what I'd do.
If I was to actually see someone fall, faint etc then I would stop and help because you can be pretty sure that nothing sinister (maybe not the right word lol) is going on, however if I came across someone on the street I don't know if I would react in quite the same way as, has been said, you can't be sure it was someone genuinely needing help.

It is sad how people are made to feel they can't help people anymore for fear of something happening to them.

I remember when I had not long been going out with my hubby we were driving down this country road near his mums house and in the layby bit there was a car stopped and this man and lady (I assume they were a couple) were outside arguing. I looked (as you do lol) and the next thing you know his given her a right back hander and she's fallen down. It made me feel physically sick. I then started to yell at my hubby to go back and see if she was ok but he wouldn't just incase anything happened, which maybe was the right thing to do as you just never know. We did though drive past again about 5-10 mins later and they were gone.
I think people are just too scared, cautious to help people now which is a shame.

Anyway, hope your son is ok