Male clients what do you think of this?

[Lavander Rose]

Hello everyone

Just wondering what you all think of this?

had a phone call from a potential male client today he sounded really nice on the phone the tone of his voice was lovely quite etc, was very polite BUT seemed a bit nervous?

The story is he wanted to know what treatments i Offerd men in my salon.
Then he asked how long have I been in the industry.
Asked if i was the only thereapist ( though he knew a Male manager runs the hair salon downstairs )
Asked if I wear a uniform.

He said he was asking all these questions because he has never been into a salon before and feels quite embarrassed ( bless ).

He also asked if he would be coverd up, and said the main reason for that is that he might get embarrased if anything happend, ( need to use you imajination there lol )

So I Went through my massage procedure and explained I dont massage the abdomen on male clients for one reason he seemed fine about it all.
and did seem really nice he is in his late 30.s and seemed really nervous

And he did,nt make an appointment said he would have a think about it and get back to me.

What do you all think about this.

Does he sound genuine, or winding me up?

I car,nt make it out coz ive had quite a lot of men in my salon for various treatments but never had one asking me so many questions.


HELP

 

[hippy-chick]

hmmmmm, think he might be genuine, but in my experience, men that ask so many questions are trying to book a sexual service.

I had one today (ad off gumtree), you know the pattern, ask you to list what type of massage you do, ask what do you wear to receive the massage.......can they book straight away.....

 

[Zo Zo]

He might be genuine but I wouldn't be at all surprised if you never hear from him again. In my experience, guys who ask lots of questions, are not genuine, they have just phoned for chat to see what reaction they get. I'm not saying he is a perv (how would I know?) but really, asking if you wear a uniform...? I wear a uniform and I think we should all wear one, but clients asking? A bit strange.

 

[Shutty]

I don't think a genuine male potential client would be asking such questions. Do you wear a uniform? Would he be covered up?

Hmmm!

 

[Lavander Rose]

Hmmmm indeed

Thants what i thought though he had a lovely voice and manner i was a bit freaked out with the questions he was asking.

It was all a bit strange and had me thinking oh and the last thing he said was im 36 is that ok duh what a question to ask what has age got to do with a packet of crisps lol,,,, he did sound nice and all but was a bit freaked out

i mean do you wear a uniform lol...he probably wont call back as i told him oh yes i wear a professional uniform consiting of trousers and a tunic LOL

what did he expect a naughty nurse thats ok with the hubby lol...mind u my fella did laugh when i told him,,,

 

[Kim Lawless]

Do you wear a uniform is not a normal question. Perv.

 

[liza smith]

I 100% agree with Kim

A few yrs ago, we had a problem with a guy phoning asking similar questions.
As most of us in the industry like to be helpful, he received lots of info about waxing.
He called a few different times, always with a slightly different query
eg. I want to book a bikini wax for my girlfriend, but I dont know which 1 to choose, Whats involved with each one?, will she need to remove her underwear?
It was at this exact moment that I clicked into reality and sussed that he was a perv!
The trouble was there was 6 members of staff answering the phone at different times, he always asked who he was speaking to, and it wasnt until a few off the girls discussed their conversations, we clicked he'd called numerous times.
I decided that they would immediately pass the phone to me if he called again and I told him the next time he rang, that, we had repeatedly given him all the info he needed and that we would not be giving out any more info over the phone, and if hegenuinely wanted to make a booking then he should do so.
Strangly enough he never did ...

 

[Lavander Rose]

Hi Liz

thankyou for your reply


Yes this was very strange did,nt think anything of it at first thought he was just generally asking what treatments that i did for men?

so i went on to say I can do massage, reflexology, facials, waxing, manicure or pedicures, thats when he said oh it was massage i was interested in, I do have male clients that get massages so did,nt think nothing of it.

It was only then he started asking these questions.

Do I work on my own, anwswer yes though the gentlemen you have just spoken to is the manager of the hair salon.

Will I be covered up? answer yes you will only be exposed when i am massageing a paricular area.

How long have you been doing this,,answer 6 yrs beauty not as long.

Do you wear a uniform? answer, yes i wear a professional uniform trousers and a tunic. that will put him off lol

I am 36 is that ok> answer yes your age is fine.

end of conversation what is your name stupidly told him as i did,nt click at the time duh.

said because he is shy and has never been to a salon feels embarassed and would think about it then give me a call,,,,,, ( IMO now i dont think he will,,,,like you have all said was testing the water oh well, at least he was pleasant and polite and had a nice phone manner lol

I will let you all know if he does ring back

 

[tog]

Jesus what's wrong with these guys, they must have loads of time on their hands to be able to waste it on making stupid phone calls to salons. I suppose they must get off on it and think it's cheaper than paying out for internet porn sites . . . wish I had time to waste, my life's too busy and my time's too precious. Can't imagine a woman making enquiries like these, can you?

 

[sknight]

I don't think they were trying to wind you up, I agree with what some others say that he was seeing if you offer another kind of service iykwim. Don't waste your time thinking about it he won't call back. x

 

[number1kitty]

Hmmmm indeed

Thants what i thought though he had a lovely voice and manner i was a bit freaked out with the questions he was asking.

It was all a bit strange and had me thinking oh and the last thing he said was im 36 is that ok duh what a question to ask what has age got to do with a packet of crisps lol,,,, he did sound nice and all but was a bit freaked out

i mean do you wear a uniform lol...he probably wont call back as i told him oh yes i wear a professional uniform consiting of trousers and a tunic LOL

what did he expect a naughty nurse thats ok with the hubby lol...mind u my fella did laugh when i told him,,,

Defo a perv! But you did right by acting professinal! But for the record what does a perv sound like lol!!! :irked:

He may have just been a business man wanting something to help him relax and seeing if you were the right place without perhaps embarrasing you and him by just presuming.

I had a massage parlour over the road from me and I just gave pervs there number if they 'wanted more'!

Thinking back I should have done there sort of massage you should have seen the cars those ladies drove and the holidays they went on! I know what they earnt because they told me - why? because inbetween them offering 'massage' I did their nails, waxing & tans lol!

xxxx

 

[brazilianqueen]

Hi there. I have to say I have had some experience with male customers like this and I'm not saying they are all like this but in my experience most of them who behave like that are not a normal customer. Unfortunately in our industry where you are dealing with semi naked people, there are those who get a kick out of it, if you get my meaning. The best thing i have found is to not react, just answer questions truthfully and always go with your gut instincts. If it doesnt feel right dont hesitate to say no to the appointment. I have had to do that on a couple of occasions, where i was made to feel very uncomfortable. My boss was very understading and in fact told me that was the right thing to do. Just my thoughts on the subject.

 

[hippy-chick]

1. They ask what type of massage you do.
2. Once you have listed the massages you do they ask do you do anything else?
3. They ask for an appointment straight away.
4. They use a mobile number or a withheld number.
5. They ask too many questions as they are trying to ascertain whether you are going to do extras.
6. They ask do you do naturist massage.

please feel free to add.

 

[Lil Ash]

This is strange!! but look at it from all views!!!

He might feel imtimated (if i spelt it correct) with a bunch of girls at the desk as he is walking in!!!

Maybe he never had a massage before he didnt know what to expect from a pro!!

 

[Lavander Rose]

Thankyou to all that have replied so far

I dont really know what to make of it to be honest. the guy sounded really nice had a very smooth soft tone to his voice.

He dd point out to me that he has NEVER been to a beauty salon before and that he was a bit embarrased ( maybe just a shy guy ), he seemed to be asking the quesion about being coverd up his words. ive never had a massage and would be embarassed if anything happened ( i think we know what he means by that ) I then explained to him that is why we exclude abdominal massage on male clients. he seemed fine about it all.


But has not rung back anyway so i guess he was just checking it out after all :grr:

 

[nailzoo]

JUST MAKE UP YOUR MIND ...........

do you wanna do men or not? If you don't, just say so on the phone, don't question afterwards.

There are so many similar threads .... do you wanna do them or not? If you don't, the discussion both before and after can be finished in less than 30 secs ..... with .... "sorry I don't do male clients".

If you want to do them, take the necessary precautions.

 

[femmefan]

JUST MAKE UP YOUR MIND ...........

do you wanna do men or not? If you don't, just say so on the phone, don't question afterwards.

There are so many similar threads .... do you wanna do them or not? If you don't, the discussion both before and after can be finished in less than 30 secs ..... with .... "sorry I don't do male clients".

If you want to do them, take the necessary precautions.

I think the question here was more about this particular male client rather than male clients in general.

From the sound of the phone call this particular client was looking for 'extras' from a different kind of 'pro'. I understand that in some areas it can be difficult for men to determine which establishments offer the service they are looking for and so a phone enquiry is actually a good idea. As long as it is made clear during the conversation that the 'extras' they want are not on the menu then they won't book an appointment and you can feel no qualms about accepting other genuine male clients.

Cheers,
Hazel

 

[Zo Zo]

JUST MAKE UP YOUR MIND ...........

do you wanna do men or not? If you don't, just say so on the phone, don't question afterwards.

There are so many similar threads .... do you wanna do them or not? If you don't, the discussion both before and after can be finished in less than 30 secs ..... with .... "sorry I don't do male clients".

If you want to do them, take the necessary precautions.

This is not about whether or not to do men. It's about whether or not to book in a dodgy sounding man. Too many questions seems to indicate they are fishing.

I have lots of thoughts on this, but if there are any dodgy ones reading this, we don't want to give them ideas on how to sound plausible :lol:

 

[gillian w]

I don't know why they bother.There are plenty of places and girls advertising exactly what they want.Unless they have been to them all and are looking for someone new.
I just say right away with enquiries about what massages i do that it is a swedish massage and it is straight.That is the terminology they understand if they are after any other kind.They usually say oh yes thats what im after, or ok thankyou and hang up.

 

[nailzoo]

This is not about whether or not to do men. It's about whether or not to book in a dodgy sounding man. Too many questions seems to indicate they are fishing.

I have lots of thoughts on this, but if there are any dodgy ones reading this, we don't want to give them ideas on how to sound plausible :lol:

What you have to remember, is that (unlike 99% of this forum) I'm a man, and I find it a tad offensive that you females are often insecure and basically accuse all men of being perverts.

It's simple, if you are in doubt, don't do them, there are numerous posts about the same subjects and it gets a little tiresome listening to (what could be deemed as sexist comments), when, if the shoe was on the other foot you'd be carrying on like Canaries exposed to gas is a Durham coalmine.

Some of the enquiries you get are quite valid, as inexperienced/insecure clients (particulary men) have many questions, just as i'd imagine you would have.

Or should I dismiss you also based on your curiosity.